Not wanting a cat doesn't mean won't care for a cat. I said no to another cat because I'm not prepared to care for it on top of everything else I've got going on.
This whole "didn't want a cat but is secretly a softy" thing needs to die.
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This whole “didn’t want a cat but is secretly a softy” thing needs to die.
Just because it does not accurately describe you does not mean it doesn't accurately describe many people
No but it’s also encouraging people to not care about others limitations.
For example I love cats but I am too disabled to care for one.
Agreed, taking on the responsibility of caring for a pet and giving them the best life you can is a situation that requires a firm yes from all parties. Especially with how expensive everything is these days, pets are not cheap.
Usually it’s more like “Doesn’t want to spend time and money on a pet” and/or “Doesn’t want to be sad when the pet inevitably passes on”
The first one I get it, but the second... Then don't anything, why live when there is eventually suffering? Thats just a sad and misserable way to think damn. And there is actually people reasoning like this, why 😭
Trauma, depression, ptsd, mental issues, not wanting yet another thing to push one over the edge, etc. The reasons to think and act like that are a lot. Not everyone lives life with rose tinted glasses.
And money. Animals are not cheap. Specially when they get problems. Not everyone is ready for all that it entails even if they love the animals.
When my cousin came to visit me for a week, she literally yelled "no!" and hit my cat when he jumped onto her lap.
A week later, she said "I think I want a cat." Now she has a cat.
Ladies and gentlemen every parent from the 80s.
Cats can be so different at a shelter or even at a foster home than they will be when they get settled. I remember my sister was told the cat she got was "a little playful" like if you made an effort, but twenty minutes after the cat settled in she was flipping her shit over a string toy. Even years later, sick, tired, and elderly, she'd dredge up some energy to bat at a toy.
It really can be like night and day. My cat was so incredibly stressed out when we brought her home that she kept "fawning" all over us for the first two weeks. Lots of excessive side rubs and a general clingyness to every interaction. She needed constant touch.
After that she began to settle in and became much more herself: playful, independent, and only sometimes in the mood for a lap or a cuddle.
mine was a big cuddler and lap cat at the shelter. got her home, she's an occasional cuddler but is hyperactive when you get a scarp of papre for her to play with
Sometimes they just haven't met the right lap yet.
LOL, get chosen, boyfriend
I remember my friend telling me he hated cats, whilst he was cradling mine in his arm like a baby and stroking his head.
was his surname "addams" by any chance?
"i despise cats. soft, cuddly. disgusting"
ow my cat never seated on my lap ever and she also don't like a lot of hand touching, the only time she demands pets is when I'm pooping and with my feet, no hands. She spends her days stalking me and talking and meawing, but touching is nono