Well, I finally had my first time being somewhat directly confronted with transphobia.
The background story is the following: So I made a meme (in another lemmy community) about a relatively unpleasant interaction I had with my parents ( I told them that I wanted to change my legal gender and they were not amused about that at all and said I should wait with it, they said I should also wait with hormones until I finished my degree for whatever reason) and someone decided to comment something about me being trans being a failure of my parents. I of course replied to it and several other other people were quite eager to roast him for this complete shit take. This ended up in him spitting a god awful amount of obvious transphobia. He called us a trend, a cult and us being trans a result of social media. He also cheered for "the reversal of the trans trend" and of course had to bring the children into it again. I would call myself not that sensitive and quite resilient to insults and similar stuff, but at some point I realized, that I have to stop the bullshit he wrote, because it definitely impacted my mood. Luckily it did not caused dysphoria, but It made me feel quite shit. He did ended up getting banned (obviously) and I am quite happy for that, since I have absolutely zero interest in Interacting with this fact resilient asshole ever again, but it was awful, even tho it was "just" my identity getting denied (and not stuff like direct threads or insults) and through the internet, but it definitely showed me, that I 100% do not want to repeat something similar in real life.
edit: One good thing was, that there were plenty of people roasting him and standing against the bullshit he said. As everyone says, allys are 100% needed, because i would not have had the energy and will to constantly push back against his bullshit.
Edit 2: Aaaaaaand here comes the Dysphoria.........
