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That's one of the things Gloria Steinem mused about in 1978

"If Men Could Menstruate"

It took until this year for doctors in the US to start giving a numbing agent for IUD insertion, so I think the medical industry as a whole underestimates the amount of pain people with uteruses feel

Yes, but most insurance doesn't cover it if there's no medical issue with the uterus or high risk of cancer. I spent two years trying to get mine removed, and even with a medical history of excessive pain and very long and unpredictable periods I can't get it removed. For that problem they usually suppress cycles with progesterones.

They offered to take out one ovary when I was still considering medical transition 😭 I'm having pain and bleeding again with an implant that supplies progestin, and they still won't remove my uterus lol

Edit: one of the answers below made me realize there may differences across generations and localities. I'm an elder millenial, and I'm in the US.

It depends on where you are, if you're in a loud bar or a club it's more common to use the buddy system when going to the bathroom. Sometimes someone will ask you to go with them if they are stressed or annoyed at something and want to talk about it, but that's rare in my experience.

Take a lipstick or something and "touch up" your makeup. That way you're waiting for them without seeming like you're waiting. But yes, generally you wait until your friend is ready to return. If it's a crowded restroom it's okay to wait outside, it's up to you if you want to tell your friend that you'll just be outside the door

It's okay to say "oh, I'll go with you" if you also need to use the restroom and it's not a loud and energetic venue. Sometimes ya just gotta go and don't realize until someone else is getting up lol

It's rough out there for some of us. I have long curly hair and massive curves (I can't even bind because of medical issues). Trying to get people to use any pronouns but she/her is a lot of work

I don't have wide feet, just long ones! But that's great info for others :)

It's a Welsh name. Ff is pronounced like F in English, while F is pronounced like V

I have large feet for my height (163cm, women's US 12) and tend to just wear men's shoes now. I have never had someone notice my feet are atypically sized, but it still feels like I'm wearing clown shoes if I wear Chucks or other canvas shoes.

You'll want to avoid pointed toes, and narrow styles, these are designed to elongate. Any kind of heel rise will shorten the length of your footprint, I personally prefer chunky heels to balance it out. I tend to wear moto style boots the most, just to throw a style name out there

There are actually more unisex styles in men's larger sizes out now than when I first started doing this (about 15 years ago). When I still wanted femme shoes I ended up buying from people who custom made drag queen shoes. It's still uncommon to find cute heels in my size in the wild.

Edit: I forgot to mention that all the style mags in the 00s (at least) were talking about elongating the leg-toe line, because psychologically it demonstrates dominance and power. (please remember the opening to The Devil Wears Prada for an example xD) So if/when you have the energy and desire for it, own it. None of the other women in your vincinity have that kind of power play ability!

I looked up names with meanings that spoke to me, then when I had a few I asked my bestie to help me narrow them down. She also made a gender neutral nickname out of my first name, which is what I usually go by. I love that I get to use a name she picked!

You might like my middle name, it means "island goddess", but most English speaking people have no idea how to pronounce it lol

This is beautiful

I am going to ask a really silly question: Have you tried using a panty liner? (yes, the period product!) They tend to make panties a little more structured while still allowing for natural movement, and I assume it will help with a gaff too