Domi

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[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 6 days ago

So happy for you, it's so nice to have this community to post and read about people's wins!

I'm desperately trying to get started, looks good that I should be able to start within a month. Hyped.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 week ago

I hate gatekeepers. Best of luck in your next steps Eskee.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago

Every day I live is a cold revenge against the people who don’t want me alive.

Fucking right. <3.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 week ago

Lol I had the exact same fear. Proud of you for telling everyone.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

Tall girls are hot as fuck.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Everyone else has covered the important stuff, just want to say good luck. I'm similar age, I have similar worries, I've had similar questions, I'm starting hrt soon.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

I'm so happy for you girl. Thanks for sharing!

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 weeks ago

This is really hard. I'm so sorry that you're parents are not willing to believe you when you tell them what you need. The whole gatekeeper model of trans health care is broken to its core. Affirming care and informed consent are all we need, anything else is transphobia.

Here is a short study on how non affirming approaches to care are terrible for those being treated https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/26895269.2025.2609952

Idk if your folks would respond to this sort of study, but if they're the kinds of libs that mine are, studies can be helpful to soften their approach. The science is on your side,whether anyone will listen is another matter ofc.

When I sought councilling at the beginning of my gender journey I looked explicitly for queer friendly and queer run orgs. Wishing you all the luck going forward.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago

That's so sweet <3 congrats.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 weeks ago

From DS9 S01E04

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[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 month ago

Absolutely same for me too. Can't recommend it enough.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago

Yeah you got it. Apparently her character was originally written as a transphobic bit (haha wouldn't it be funny if the socially awkward guy went on a date and it turned out the date was trans), but I think the actor really took it seriously and the writers consulted with trans advocacy groups and they brought on a trans woman to consult formally and make sure Hayley wasnt just a characature. It wasn't perfect by any means but it was really interesting to compare with now where a trans person's inclusion would be considered a pure political statement and the hate machine would immediately spin into overdrive.

 

Hi, I'm Domi.

Long time lurker, first time poster. I just wanted to say that you have all helped me a great deal.

It's been long and slow journey unpacking the huge pile of internalised phobias that were pumped into my brain as an assumed male growing up in the 90s and 2000s. I have spent a long time in this very self-loathing "everyone is valid except me" way of thinking.

I've been reading your stories for a long time, the beautiful trans joy and difficult and terrible things too. You being here, being yourselves in all your glory, it has been a way for me to feel community and connection even before I could admit to myself who I really was.

So thank you all, thank you for sharing your joy, thank you sharing your hard times, thank you so much for being who you are. You've done more to help me than you can know.

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