The first few hours will be agony because of basically every thought rushing through your head but it will feel so liberating afterwards.
this post was submitted on 01 Mar 2026
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ok, no one thinks i am dumb for realising so late. (take that anxiety. you were wrong.)
one friend kept awkwardly quiet. that might be a problem? usually he lives in his phone. we'll see.
Your friends will have to process this as well, give them time :).
And it's never too late to realise that. I don't know how old you are but I came out like 1 month before my 31st birthday.
we are good. he probably just was with his new semi-regular grinder hook-up. ;)
Happy to hear that :)
Lol I had the exact same fear. Proud of you for telling everyone.
Hey, I'm really proud of you. That took a lot of courage. There's no getting around the flood of emotions an feelings of panic that doing something like this will bring, you just have to wait it out. But remember, you told your friends. These are people who like and interact with you by choice. And just as I'm sure you would stand by them, they will stand by you.
Eat some food, drink some water, and know that everything will feel a bit better after a good nights sleep.
ty. i'm really super unhungry. but i'll make tea.
I hope everything will be fine. Wish you all best :3
ty!
Wishing you luck ❤️
ty!
It'll be fine. As long as you didn't pick some really weird name, like Clematis.
not that, but there is a potential for calling me pretentious, if i decided, to put the long version in my passport. :)
Truth be told, I'm not out to anyone beyond my partner and a couple of friends, and I haven't picked a name. Im sure whatever you picked will be great! After all, you wouldn't have picked it if it didn't seem right.
i am now pretty much stuck with it (the short form) there is no way i am doing this again, ever. at least no the public anouncement.
i might come back to having a goth nsme. "hi, i'm misery, glad to meet you." :)
this video rules
i'm definitely not the first to share, but its always fun to watch
argh! should've picked: małgorzata brzęczyszczykiewić :))
hell yeah!! i hope your friends treat you with the love and kindness you deserve :D