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so yeah. i established a persona that wears whatever ages ago. the only relevant steps in my coming out (in my city) are therefore name and pronouns. it is horrific. i don't want to talk abt myself or be the topic of any discussion. i like the anonymity here. but these people know me.

i just turned off notifications and spammed a few group chats.

... guess i'll burn my phone.


update: i'll survive. i had a good, long and agitated walking-around-in-the-flat-while-crying, then had a peak into the messages. had 2 really cool chats with ppl i hadn't talked to for a long while. the rest is a lot of emoji noise. which is nice, but i don't know what to do with that. it's the nice ones.

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[–] Tywele@piefed.social 21 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

The first few hours will be agony because of basically every thought rushing through your head but it will feel so liberating afterwards.

[–] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

ok, no one thinks i am dumb for realising so late. (take that anxiety. you were wrong.)

one friend kept awkwardly quiet. that might be a problem? usually he lives in his phone. we'll see.

[–] Tywele@piefed.social 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Your friends will have to process this as well, give them time :).

And it's never too late to realise that. I don't know how old you are but I came out like 1 month before my 31st birthday.

[–] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

we are good. he probably just was with his new semi-regular grinder hook-up. ;)

[–] Tywele@piefed.social 3 points 1 week ago

Happy to hear that :)

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 week ago

Lol I had the exact same fear. Proud of you for telling everyone.