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Alt text: Scene from Kung Fu Panda, depicting Oogwa as relieved, saying "Finally, inner peace". End alt text.
Figured I'd ask a positive question. For me it was the first time I'd put on estrogen. The HUGE relief I felt... and a few months in when I no longer felt I'd needed a breast form.
I saw gals describe their first time on E as seeing everything in a much more vibrant tint, but I didn't experience that. - is that really a thing, or is it more metaphorical? :3
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Strong shell and feets for marching!
But also being a girl is just cool as fuck. A hell of a lot less suicidal than being a man, thatβs for fucking sure.
I'll let you know when I find out. It's either going to be E or bathing in the blood of the vanquished (depending on whether or not the E works).
Death.
When I get misgendered and I just dont care about it anymore. Happens only when I dress more masculine or have my motorcycle gear on.
I am content with my body and gender after all the years on E and surgeries. No cis nonsense can do anything about it.
When I realized and accepted that I'm trans. The period between realizing and fully accepting was very short because all the pieces fell in place almost immediately and there has never been any doubt in my mind. I remember feeling like I finally, finally found what my actual problem was and why I've been feeling like shit for half a century. I sat in the sun in my garden with a coffee and just smiled and felt like everything was right in the world. I had NO idea what I was getting myself into, but no ragrets. π
Lots of things have given me this, most recently it's been just putting leggings on, everything being smooth, not having to worry about my now nonexistent penis showing. It's pure bliss.
PENIS DESTRUCTOR 100 :3
Longing for that day too, tbh. If I may ask, what's recovery times for bottom surgery like? Would I need a lot of medicine for the initial weeks? I'm also considering it but not sure how much it'll hurt.
It depends a lot on where you get it done. They have different procedures and care routines in the US/Asia/Europe. I'm in Germany and I was in hospital for two weeks, then at home for another two recovering 90% of the time and from then on I slowly started to go back to normal life. I'm now almost 8 weeks post-op and I'm back to work since week 6 and doing everything like I did before surgery. Working out is still a no-no theoretically but I don't work out anyway lol.
They gave me pretty heavy painkillers in the hospital but ever since coming back home I've not taken any and haven't felt any pain in the area.
Ah, NachbΓ€rin! Germany, close to me (π³π±). Wonderful, I'm so happy for you :D
I hope you feel much better!! I hope you celebrated it with a BlΓ₯haj and nice food!
Do they offer surgeries in Germany in where you can get a self-lubricating vagina? What are all the options?
Ohh wat leuk haha! I celebrated a lot! Getting surgery was life-saving for me and my bottom dysphoria got so bad over the last year I'm so so glad I had the privilege to have surgery. As for options I didn't really have any because I went to one of the very few (maybe the only one? I'm not sure) clinics that had less than a 2-3 year wait and they only offered standard penile inversion with some special enhancement only they do. To be completely honest with you I didn't care much about the method or the details of getting one exact type of surgery. For me, just getting rid of my penis was the most important thing above all, by all means possible. I don't know if I would've been able to wait years for a clinic that offers any other method so it wasn't really a choice. But I think in Germany most of them do the same stuff anyway so it doesn't matter that much. I'm very happy with what I got.
Oddly enough I obsessed A LOT over HRT and still do, the different methods and how it works etc. But with bottom surgery I didn't research it that much, I just NEEDED to get it done so desperately, having a penis was literal torture for me and it got worse every day. Of course I looked at it enough to not get screwed over by doctors but it wasn't nearly the amount of research & deep-diving I did with most other aspects of transition.
when I see myself in the mirror, most days I'm seeing Nikki there anymore and it never gets old :)