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On a discussion board? Oh, the humanity!
This is actually an ongoing issue in many spaces. "If you don't fully validate me by only talking about what I said, you are the enemy."
That's a rather juvenile approach. Discussion is how change happens, and shutting it off makes shooting yourself in the foot seem a wise option by comparison.
I'm deeply enmeshed in the queer community, and you're saying I'm not supportive enough? You are working against your own self-interest. Don't attack your colleagues; attack the system.
Dude, I wasn't saying you aren't supportive enough. Just, that you are taking up too much space! This day is (was) literally meant to be a celebration of trans people and their struggles and you try to make it about yourself. So yes, it would be exactly the right occasion to for one day validate us. And if you don't want to, then just shut up.
You're proving my point. The trans community isn't doing itself any favours by saying "the is a day where everyone who isn't trans needs to shut the fuck up."
I think there’s a misunderstanding about the intent here. Asking for space on TDoV isn’t meant as an attack, but as a boundary. Support shouldn't be conditional on a community being perfectly polite while they're asking to be heard. Telling a marginalized group they aren't doing themselves any favors by setting boundaries on their own visibility day feels more like a lecture than allyship.