Eldritch Mlems

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I always call mine "bro" or "my son". Rarely do I ever actually say his name lol.

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by Flickerby@lemmy.zip to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org
 
 

So I have a friend, ACTUAL friend not a "this is me but I don't wanna say situation" who has identified as trans ever since she was like, 13 or 14. She doesn't have the insurance to cover the treatments but that can be dealt with, the bigger issue is that while she really WANTS to start, she's deathly afraid of what it's going to do to her social circles. Which I kinda get, she's in....not a very accepting area. But she feels like she can't starts unless she moves away otherwise she's just going to cause issues for her family, like specific examples she brought up being her dad pulled over and ticketed for random bullshit because of her. It's a small town but not THAT small. I'm not sure what to do or say about it. I've obviously just been encouraging her to do what she wants, when she wants, but I can tell she's getting more and more frustrated with the situation as time goes on and I just thought maybe I'd ask here for advice or thoughts or input or something. Thank you all in advance

Thank you everyone for your help! Definitely going to pass it on. I think I'm going to log out forever now though. I'm really tired to be honest. And everything is just a bit waves hands much. Especially today. You guys were a nice light though <3 Thank you

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He does this sometimes. At least he doesn’t sit on the keyboard (usually).

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Did you know that the fluffier the cat, the more gumdrop-shaped they become when they sit? He had a haircut a little while back to get rid of the mats (he isn’t cleaning himself as well in his older age now), and his fluff is coming back with style! Wish he’d let me brush him more.

He is a little chonky. He pretends to be starving to entice me to give him more wet food (he has an automatic feeder and pretends that it didn’t go off three times a day) or a licky stick (our name for tube treats). I thought maybe he wasn’t quite getting enough, so I gave him more wet food.

Well, turns out he was getting enough, so now I’ve gotta cut back on his meals a little! Cheeky, cheeky.

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shot by my sister, 12/29/2025

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So as some of you might have read, my parents were not amused, when I started to correct them misgendering me (Quick recap: My mother told me "You cant expect us to get used to this [new Name/pronouns] for those few times you visit"

This kicked me finally over the edge. I planned on staying until the end of the first week of January. Now I am leaving tomorrow (I am helping a friend out which was planned, but I will not return to my parents which was not originally planned). I told them today, that I will not come back and that they are the reason. I told them, that I expect them to call me the right name/pronouns and that my motivation to come back to them as long as this does not happen is relatively low. I told them, that this is the basic level of human respect that I am expecting. I am not expecting anything else, but I am not accepting anything below that.

How did they respond to that? They did not get anything I was trying to say. They told me, that "they need time to adjust", while not making a single fucking move that even hinted that they are adjusting. Yes I did just tell them my name 4 weeks ago. They still had 7 fucking months to get used to the idea of me being trans. They did not do anything except watching horrible videos of detransitioners. They told me the most transphobic bullshit ever right to my face. If it wouldnt have been my parents i would have ended prior discussions about this after 3 fucking sentences. 4 weeks + additional 6 months of you doing nothing and not even trying and you are telling me that you need more time. They even dared themselves to talk about tolerance and said I should be glad, that they were "tolerant" enough to not kick me out like other parents do. ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?????? You dare to say I should be glad, that you are not completely heartless monsters? This bar is so incredibly low and you are using this as a comparison?

Nothing of this would have happened if they even showed the smallest amount of effort. I did not want to do anything of this. While our relationship has always been a bit tricky i still kind of liked them and enjoyed staying there to a certain extent. I do not want to cut them out, but I am not willing to give them a free pass for endlessly deadnaming/misgendering me.

I am so fucking angry and sad at the same time. Probably gonna cry myself to sleep now or something like that.

Edit: guess who only slept 4h at maximum.

Edit 2: So since yesterday evening my dad wrote me 3 Messages (each on its own is like a half book) talking a whole lot about how much he worked, so that his children will have it better than him, and that he does not want to loose me. About 5 minutes before I left today he called me and said, that I can take as much money as I need from them if I just come back and then started crying. Ending the call while your own dad Cry's on the phone felt brutal. My dad has been through a lot, so it takes quite a lot to make this man cry. What this shows to me is, that they are finally realising, that its getting serious. This also shows to me, that not all hope is lost.

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submitted 2 months ago by ickplant@lemmy.world to c/cat@lemmy.world
 
 
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I'm around 9 months of feminizing HRT, and maintain the opinion that it is one of the best decisions I've made. I know that a lot of long term changes won't kick in until the 2-3 year mark at least, and it can take 5 or more years before strength is comparable to a cis woman.

Yesterday I took some milestone pictures, and it was the first time I've seen my back since before starting hormones. Holy dysphoria Batman. Genuinely the most acute dysphoria I've experienced. I have had a day to cry, nap, and evaluate, and am back to trusting the process, but damn I want these lats to go away.

I powerlifted in my past life as a way to try and run away from the woman I wanted to become, but haven't done any upper body strength training in over 3 years. I'd have great genes if I wasn't trans ;-;

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