thoughtfuldragon

So for speech there's two main components that people use to determine gender: weight and resonance. To sound feminine you want to get your weight low and your resonance high. Neither of these are pitch.

Pitch variation is a style of speaking commonly associated with women but isn't exclusive to them. It's also relative, you aren't aiming for specific pitches, but just to have a lot of change in pitch.

Singing is an additional challenge because absolute pitch does matter here. Going through testosterone puberty does lower the pitch of your voice. How much varies person to person.

When I started voice training, I used https://www.youtube.com/@TransVoiceLessons videos a lot to guide me. I still think her approach of keeping your voice relaxed, recording and listening to yourself a lot, and learning to hear the various components of your voice is the best way to do it. I know other teachers focus on specific techniques or drills but the free form method is what worked for me.

For singing, well, you need to know more or less how to sing. That's something I learned from my mom and from being in university choir a few semesters. Singing training and vocal feminization both require learning how to make specific sounds with your voice and complement each other but they are different. For me, I learned to sing, then later trans'ed my gender and feminized my voice. It's taken a while and a fair bit of focused practice to build up the skill to hold my resonance and weight while also keeping pitch steady and hitting the right vowel sounds most of the time. There's still some problem areas but it's enough that I can sing around the house without the dysphoria forcing me into silence. I don't have aims of being a musician, and I'll never be a soprano but I like singing again and that was my goal.

I am once again begging to turn into a pumpkin

The two main things my surgeon recommended was insert and rotate the dilator to help ease past pain points and there's no such thing as too much lube. I definitely use more lube than strictly necessary but I've never had a major issue dilating.

One thing to note is that a clitoris is erectile tissue and stiffness when aroused is something that cis women experience.

I do injections, especially with subcutaeous the needles are pretty small and I've been able to adjust. I still don't like needles but I got trained on how to use these and I'm able to manage them now.

Agreed

consentfullly estrogenizes you

Finding a good therapist can help with a lot, it usually takes a few tries to find one that works well.

I too am an androgynous slob. Make up seems interesting but not really worth the time investment.

I feel more ease socializing online. I'm ok at it in person but the noise levels for in person socializing is generally too high for my comfort.

I moved cross country a few years ago to a city from a small town. I've met some people here, dated a few, most didn't stick.

I do have a gf and some other less defined relationships.

I don't know if Germany is comparable to where I am or not. I hope you find fulfilling relationships with people you enjoy being with.

I'll stop being subby when dommes stop being incredibly hot and sexy (never).

I mean yeah but also somebody short pulling me down to their level is super hot too but idk what a outspokenly subby dragon such as myself is supposed to do these days to find a cadre of dommes of various heights.

It's very true.

Nice you got the big soul source. I'm afraid mine are bigger tho. ;p