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discovered a helpful technique when dilating (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 4 months ago by dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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when dilating, often I have a lot of pain around what I suspect are certain scar rings in my neovagina, basically areas where it's much harder to push past, almost like a sphincter but without control to tighten

I have discovered that after pushing painfully past certain points I can experience painful burning sensation, but if I pull the dilator out, put a horizontal ring of lube on the dilator around the threshold of how deep it goes in, and then put the dilator in, I often manage to get the same depth as was painful before but experience less pain and burning. I think this is twofold, maybe relaxing and re-inserting helps reduce tension, and maybe the lube at the edge helps prevent pain from pushing deeper.

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[–] thoughtfuldragon@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 4 months ago

The two main things my surgeon recommended was insert and rotate the dilator to help ease past pain points and there's no such thing as too much lube. I definitely use more lube than strictly necessary but I've never had a major issue dilating.