This is why I tell people "any pronouns" despite almost always referring to myself as "it" or "they". I find it useful to hear how I am percieved, it helps me figure out just how "extra" I need to dress to be seen as a person of mixed gender.
knightly
joined 2 years ago
As someone genderful, I see gender as a performance, and I got the wrong script. Luckily, nobody seems to have noticed that I'm making it all up as I go along. XD
I started HRT at 36 myself. The only downside is needing a lot of hair removal that I haven't even gotten started on yet. XD
Most problems in Africa can be traced back to either the English or the French.
Likewise! I'd love to be seen as a person of mixed gender, but I'll happily settle for being as visible as I can.
I know exactly how you mean, you're basically describing my exact presenation~<3
I like to say that I'm sort of the opposite of agender, genderfull rather than genderless, but it's really difficult to achieve that look. Hell, I can go out hiking topless in public and nobody even notices my tits, my moustache might as well be an cloaking spell. XD
That is to say, there are more folks like us than you might think, we're just one of the least visible segments of the trans community because even if you're used to recognizing trans people and agender folk, there's no set aesthetic for us in-betweeners yet.
I'm an it/they/he enby, and I feel you. Being somewhere between Femboy and Trans Tomboy is a weird space, even after two years of hormone therapy folks still reflexiely gender me male.
It's awkward to be called "sir", but until more folks start seeing people of mixed gender I'll have to be content to put up with it.
At the risk of breaking the trans prime directive, you sound a lot like a trans tomboy or maybe an enby. Hormone therapy might be right for you~<3
Under Capitalism, though, we're forced to pay for everything, including the third spaces we need for peopling. That is problematic by definition, right there. I can't blame the interviewer and interviewee for dodging the topic, people don't like to talk about it and I can empathize. I watched my Mom piss away her savings to open a small town bookstore/coffee shop after she retired, just to have a place to hang out in town that wasn't a church.
Not on Fennec for Android, sadly.
It does! Not enough to banish my body hair dysphoria about entirely, but it really does help a lot.