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For me it's more about perception. I don't want to be clocked as trans and attacked or kicked out of bathrooms or turned away from gynecologists by shitty scheduling staff (having that issue right now) because of my voice.

Good point, I should have said repulsion to masculine typical features not men since not all men have those features.

This is a list of providers who generally will provide letters with a single visit, though you may need to pay cash: https://dosomethingidentities.org/providers

Note that most of us require a lot more than 2 since they expire and wait lists are long. And you may want to verify if the insurance still follows WPATH from just a few years ago or from decades ago. Current recommendations are just one letter, but we all know most insurance still requires 2. And old ones sometimes required different combinations of providers with and without history with the patient or different levels of education. Also, it's all just gate-keeping, so don't feel bad about cheating, since they aren't even bothering to pretend it's for medical reasons.

I needed 6 letters personally. 2 to start HRT which as an agender person shouldn't have even been required even under current versions of WPATH, and wasn't originally part of my plan, but insurance, not doctors, insisted on, and I was required to be on for a year minimum. (But turned out I actually have enjoyed the breast growth I was a little afraid of, so for me it worked out, but other non-binary people it's forcing not medically recommended or wanted transitioning on them, the exact thing conservatives say WPATH is there to prevent). 2 more to get a consultation scheduled since the first two were expired by the time I got through that wait lists after the required referral from the HRT prescriber. And another 2 for the surgery date because the second two were too close to expiring for them (though not yet expired).

And for the first 2 rounds I had been on wait lists for both psychiatrists and therapists due to severe shortages in my area, so I would have been delayed another year or more if I didn't have this list (in it's previous form as a Google Sheet spreadsheet).

Just had my surgery last month. Now I have regular providers to do letters for the next surgery or revision surgery if needed since all of that will require totally separate letters for both consult and years later surgery dates after wait lists with the different specific surgery mentioned. US healthcare system sucks... 😵‍💫

Actually it just further proves that all of the gender traits that they think are inherent are actually not at all. It's why so many cis-women are harassed for having slightly "masculine" features in bathrooms these days.

The lack of testosterone seems to have reduced my distaste for some masculine physical traits I will admit, but overall it hasn't changed that I'm primarily attracted to women, especially sexually. But I've been out as pansexual for a long time with a strong lean towards women and non-binary people.

The thing that has skewed me away from men and penises on others has mostly been my dislike of anal sex. Now that I have a vagina, that's not as big of a concern, though still not driving me to wanting penetration. And I still don't really like lots of facial, chest, or back hair and some other masculine traits, but those are as much socially driven as physically. I mean cis-women have facial and body hair, just less of it and social pressure means women often remove it.

So, I think if its that almost instinctual repulsion to same gender people that some people have, then that might mellow out. But I think, anecdotally, that that feeling is more socially driven and learned than biological as is commonly thought. Otherwise, homosexual behavior in cis-men who are otherwise "straight" wouldn't be as common (recent news topic about a very powerful person possibly very relevant there, lol). Just my opinion as someone who is pansexual and agender and so hasn't experienced that stuff outside of social conditioning which took a long time to break and was long before HRT.

Yeah I'm 48 and a year in to HRT and feel that desire to hurry up before I get droopy...LOL. Originally I didn't want breast augmentation or surgical body sculpting, but I just want clothes to fit right so, so badly.

Yeah, wish she kept up that kind of resistance. Same with Hillary Clinton. First stared fighting the big medical industry in the 90s, but ended up selling out or getting blackmailed or something and threw in with the existing system which is only slightly better due to "Obamacare"/ACA, but still getting worse and worse as insurance and medical facilities get bought up and turned into profit squeezing machines instead of medical care places.

Yeah towels/rags will be a good option once I can do laundry on my own.

But the powder option might be worth looking into. Just have to avoid talc for obvious reasons. I have some of that, but it's not for body, it's for tent seam/patch sealant drying/making it less sticky before folding it up.

Added some more details to the original post on what I've tried and the things I'm trying to work around. The craft mat so far has been the best, but has issues since it sticks to skin a bit more than ideal.

I think these things start as a novelty and once that wears off, it's not as interesting. Happens to young cis-girls too. I remember preteen girls in school just dying to get their hands on makeup but when later in life it becomes a social necessity rather than a fun novelty, it becomes a chore.

Personally, nail polish takes a lot of time so I only use it for special occasions. Plus my nails are fragile, so it's easier to keep them healthy without it. And you have to be careful with your hands while it's on and I'm not good at that. Lol.

When I do use it, I use a strengthening base coat and a clear top coat to help with those issues, but that usually makes it take forever to dry, even with drying drops, so I need to do it the day before I do something and that makes it even more unlikely I'll use it.

Unethical and hierarchical non-monogamy is risky emotionally, ethical non-hierarchical non-monogamy without envy driven rules is not any more or less risky emotionally and can be very rewarding with truly loving partners as you don't have to rely on a single person to provide things you need when it's painful for them to be forced into providing those things since you can't find another partner to provide those things.

Especially bad for ace or disabled people or women with vaginal issues and men with erectile issue when their partner is left sexless, but they need it to be fulfilled for example, or when one partner needs lots of physical touch but the other has trauma related to it, or a partner who loves to worship breasts, but has a partner with very sensitive nipples, but other than these issues the relationships are great. With ENM those things can be fulfilled by other partners while maintaining an even stronger relationship with the first partner.

Still absorbent and will stain from the blood. Not wipeable like a silicone or some other material that I can clean nearly instantly.