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Hey their lady mcfemale girl gal
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The Dude would not abide people who intentionally try to make someone else’s day shit. Live and let’s bowl, I say.
To be serious though, you are valid and deserve courtesy, understanding, and respect. I hate that people do that. Especially those around us.
That Blahaj really tied the transgirl together
That's why you gotta hit em with the "homie", "home slice", "big dawg", "amigo", "boss", or "friendo".
They might actually enjoy those. I found best effect by using something else that they might consider diminutive. Kiddo, sport, Buck, "little man". If they get too upset, you can always pass it off as, "oh, sorry. That's what I call my sibling/kid/nephew" etc. Which is the same bullshit reasoning they tend to give us "oh sorry, it's just how you look though."
Do I gotta kiss em on the lips? I'm not prepared for this level of homeslicing. I'm in too deep please advise.
Yes, but tongue is optional, as is tradition.
i know homies kiss homies, but homies nibbling on homies necks has me worried about vampires and i'm like almost out of toum. i got like, maybe half a gallon left? that's not enough.
What does this mean? The character looks very androgynous and could be either male or female, trans or cis. Is this referring to how gender-neutral-looking people get assumed to be male?
They look fairly fem to me; at the very least not masculine enough to be consistently gendered male in good faith.
I can see the fem but I would probably be unsure if I saw them irl without being able to tell from body shape/voice
I'd be shocked if I saw someone with purplish skin and giant horns irl
That's just Tuesday wym
That's a custom character in Baldur's Gate 3. Gender isn't determined by appearance in the game, but this is definitely a base model used for female characters. If we could zoom out a bit, you'd see some extremely improbable breasts sticking out.
Zoom out a little more and there are lots of options for what could be downstairs. But as far as I know the NPCs that use this base model are exclusively female. So as far as the meme is concerned, I believe it's supposed to look outwardly like a woman.
This is why I just use "friend" to refer to everyone.
All genders inclusive, respectful, friendly. Don't have to try and figure anything out.
"Hey, friend",
"Pardon, friend",
"Thanks, friend",
Simple
Mellon!
Is "Pal" also gender inclusive? I got this weird feeling that a pal is more of a little boy than a girl?
Degendering is also a form of misgendering
Under the condition that the person has told you their gender (or the pronouns they want you to use for them): yes, then i am agreeing with you
But if you don't know a person: The gender is not always lining up with their apperance or the appearance can be (sometimes purposely) ambiguous
Absolutely agree. Unfortunately, too many people bend that second part into willful ignorance, refusing to ask, "forgetting", or it just becoming the default for anybody not known to be cis, even if their gender is wildly obvious.
I used to have a friend that worked in HR who would always call me them and they, even though I'd told him numerous times my pronouns are she/her, and he would always defensively come back that since he worked in HR it's just how he operates, and then refused to ever refer to me as she or her.
It's dehumanizing and transphobic and we see right through the bullshit. It's super obvious and you aren't being clever.
People: if you don't know, just ask. If you refuse or neglect to ask and keep doing this after more than just the first meeting somebody, you're very likely a piece of shit. Don't lean on this. Too many people here are defensively leaning on this.
this is giving: "if you're not also a mind-reader, you're transphobic"....
I ain't your bro son.
Gurl
A few of these remind me of their usage in customer support, and boy I hate them already before getting into the actual transmeme.
"Lady", but I say it like Moe Sizlack talking to the Listen Lady.
Itt: everyone doing everything except using the right pronouns
I've noticed this on my main page and am here to get educated: what is the meme about?
I'm assuming the meme is about her being male presenting and hit with male pronouns from strangers who assume the gender visually, while the OP would prefer to be addressed by female pronouns (I'm not sure how said strangers should know that though, but that's not the meme point)?
Or is it a meme about being stuck in the process and however she tries she's still male presenting for reasons unknown to her?
It's often less about how one actually presents and more about people who know you refusing to change how they refer to you. People who knew you before often don't change how they think of you until forced to reconcile with it. Until they see AND accept that you're incontrovertibly feminine, they'll keep calling you sir even if most new people who meet you call you ma'am.
Thanks, appreciate it.
It could be cognitive bias (because of the words around it), but the girl on the screenshot does look a bit manly to me (but it also can be lighting, angle, makeup, hair, scales and horns; after all those are the tools of drag and I'm not an expert at gendering peeps. Fortunately my native language has gendered names, verbs and nouns so misgendering someone after their first sentence is gramatically improbable)