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I just had mine removed like 3 months ago. I'll answer your questions in order.
I asked my doctor about it and he recommended me some in network surgeons, so finding a place to do it was easy.
For recovery I remember laying in bed for like 4 days before I got a bit more active. I could manage pain just fine with otc meds. A lot of my pain I think was nerve pain, which I felt moreso in my inner upper thighs rather than my groin and I found that using an ice pack helped a lot. I felt a lot better after just one week, but I did still have to take it easy with activity for about 6 to 8 weeks.
I do have extra skin. If you want to get a vaginoplasty in the future, you should leave it since they will use that skin. I imagine that you could get it removed if you want though.
Mine was around $24,000 without insurance. I'm on my parents insurance still, and my Mom had a surgery that maxed it out, so I was very fortunately fully covered and paid nothing. The surgery itself was $20,000 but then you have things like anesthesia, getting the letters, the consult, and pre and post op appointments.
After the procedure they gave me pain meds and a laxative. Didn't really need the pain meds and I used the laxative for like a week. I also have stopped my T blocker since, which is nice.
A lot of stronger pain meds cause constipation so the laxative can be for that side effect. Avoiding bearing down aka poo pushing can be recommended to reduce stress on the surgery site. I had two hernia operations to learn this. I'm a cis male but one of my testes is giving me a bit of grief so I expect I'll need to evict it at some point.