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Some helpful links:

The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.

Support Hotlines:

The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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why the hell do i need to validate my identity to new people in psychology (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 2 weeks ago by coolestusername@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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(vent not looking for advice)

for context I started seeing a psychologist last week. (I already was talking to a psychiatrist) he said "ooh you're too young make these decisions, you might've manipulated when you were vulnerable" a few times during the session.

My BROTHER in christ, I've been suffering from gender dysphoria for nearly 4 years, it's like someone telling someone "maybe you're supposed to be underwater" whilst drowning. How many times do I need to say typical male identity 100% doesn't fit me and I very well know effects of HRT. And now he wants me to write an short essay on what I went through when puberty began. What the hell do you want me to say, like "i wanna cut my penis off" or "i used to play with dolls when i was little"? after that he asked about my sexuality HOW DO HELL MY SEXUALITY RELATES TO MY GENDER IDENTITY, I especially hated it when he asked why I was trans after I told him I'm bisexual, hate how this type of cis people see gender. Felt like sisyphus trying to roll up the giant boulder while trying to explain how i think and feel.

wish I could see a queer psychologist

I'll maybe give him another chance but I don't think I'll arrange another appointment.

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[–] coolestusername@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I didn't ask for a psychologist, my parents made me see one. I hate saying this but, I need someone for tricking my parents to get me hrt. There's no way I can get my blood levels checked by myself.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 weeks ago

This is really hard. I'm so sorry that you're parents are not willing to believe you when you tell them what you need. The whole gatekeeper model of trans health care is broken to its core. Affirming care and informed consent are all we need, anything else is transphobia.

Here is a short study on how non affirming approaches to care are terrible for those being treated https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/26895269.2025.2609952

Idk if your folks would respond to this sort of study, but if they're the kinds of libs that mine are, studies can be helpful to soften their approach. The science is on your side,whether anyone will listen is another matter ofc.

When I sought councilling at the beginning of my gender journey I looked explicitly for queer friendly and queer run orgs. Wishing you all the luck going forward.

[–] fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 4 points 2 weeks ago

Tricking your parents into letting you get HRT is perfectly acceptable, don't feel guilty in the slightest. DIY is also an option but you should see that as the fallback plan, having a doc is best if you can.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

Did your parents choose which psychologist to see? In general it's advised to see a "gender-informed" therapist when dealing with gender dysphoria in therapy. Otherwise, you'll have unhelpful (potentially traumatizing) experiences with ignorant therapists who don't know anything about gender dysphoria.

If you have any control over the therapist, I suggest you use that to your advantage to find someone who could actually help you. (To be honest, therapy can't treat gender dysphoria - but therapy can help you work up the courage and get the support you need to take the steps that have been shown to treat gender dysphoria, namely social and medical transition.)