Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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You know how I explain it for people that don't get it?
You don't assume someone's name.
You don't walk up to a complete stranger and say "Hey bob, nice to meet you".
So why would you assume any other part of their identity?
Convenience. Many communicative norms, even things like standard goodbye/hello stuff, is engrained in cultures for convenience. Why should people have to think hard about the basics of interaction? Though as an autist, social norms have always been difficult for me, so it was just a minor speedbump on the road of life to learn how to not be awkward around trans people.
Though convenience is the same reason cliche Boomers/karens will complain about anything. They're so privileged that any inconvenience is tentamount to an insult directed at them. So, when someone comes in and says, "nono, you have to do something different for me.", all they think is, "I'm being inconvenienced, and for this thing I don't understand, wtf!"
As usual, it all boils down to selfishness. Way too many selfish, close-minded idiots in the world.
Now I kind of want to go to a complete stranger and say hi Bob...