I actually knew what my name was going to be more than a decade before I transitioned. The first time I had ever heard it I sort of latched onto it, somehow I never met anyone else with the name (it's not a particularly uncommon name) but it always stuck with me.
So when I started thinking about socially transitioning it was sort of a no-brainer, it felt like my "real" name had been there waiting for me all along. I know that must sound trite and cliche and not at all helpful but it was a really affirming moment in the process for me.
At times it was really hard watching my daughter’s biological mother go through the pregnancy because of the envy and dysphoria that it constantly brought forward.
The first six months of her life I had a hard time being around her without feeling the dysphoria intensely and I was so terrified that her first word would be “dada” or “papa”.
So I guess this is all to say that IMO it is a totally normal thing for us and I think it’s also something a lot of cis women who struggle with fertility issues go through.