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Looking for Sperm Preservation Advice in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

We went through Legacy. They partnered with a service called Splitit and they technically handle the payments but all of it was taken care of through the Legacy platform ❤️

Looking for Sperm Preservation Advice in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Hi! Depends on where you live, but I live in the US and this is what I ended up doing.

My Endo recommended a service called Legacy for storage. She told me most of her patients have gone with them and although none to date have withdrawn their samples yet, everyone has had positive experiences with the deposit.

They're an at home service, meaning they send you a kit in the mail. The kit included a cup for the sample, some mixing (think powdered cheese for microwavable Mac n cheese) to stabilize the sample and very strict instructions to make sure to have the sample dropped off or picked up by a mail carrier same day of producing the sample.

I did two deposits about a week apart from each other. They analyzed both samples for viability, STDs and even how a small portion of the sample handled being frozen and then thawed.

I even had the ability to use my true name in their system and the only place I needed to use my legal name was on the sample cup itself.

They're going to store my sperm for 5 years. And the entire process cost my wife and I $1200 for collection, analysis and storage. We pay monthly payments of $100 with no interest.

Honestly very smooth process and I have no complaints.

Let me know if you have follow up questions :)

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Who has been your biggest support during your transition? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

And how have they shown that support to you?

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Those of you that have children. What does it mean to be a dad or mom to you? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

Been a while since I've posted here but missed you all!

I'd love for this to be a discussion question, but also I am legitimately asking.

I have a beautiful son who helped crack my egg when he was born. But I'm still struggling understanding what being a mom means other than "just how I feel"

I never had good blueprints for being a father or mother so all I know is generally "how to be a parent"

But I'm curious to those of you that have children. What does being a mother mean to you? What does being a father mean to you?

Thank you

-Liv

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What thoughts/memories did you have before coming out, in hindsight, are big signs you were trans? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you're trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.

Thank you lady_scarecrow for the above disclaimer. Very good advice ❤️

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Do you remember the last thing you told yourself was a reason you "couldn't be trans" before your egg cracked? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

That last bit of defense before fully realizing your inner beauty 💜

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Do you have a blahaj? If so, what is their name? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

Here is mine ❤️ she may be knock off, but she's huge beautiful and her name is Gloria. I love her very much :D

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What has been the greatest source of euphoria or affirmation through your transition? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

Do you have "that one thing" that always feels affirming? Something that you continuously return to because you know it'll make your day better?

MtF HRT Week 2 - My Experience in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 years ago

That is... Exactly what that was. Wow, thank you for putting words to the feelings I was having. Still working on identifying and understanding my emotions, haha.

Thank you for your insight! It really helped me ❤️

Republicans Issue New Government Shutdown Threat Over Trans People (USA) in c/lgbtq_plus@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 years ago

I can't say where Erin is pulling the pride flags bit from. Ive found this about Florida wanting to ban pride flags from government buildings and schools.

https://www.axios.com/2024/01/17/florida-pride-flags-bill-lgbtq

🤷🏻‍♀️

MtF HRT Week 2 - My Experience in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Congrats hun! I'm actually right there with you. Started my journey on 2/9 so seeing your experience helps put mine in perspective.

The mental changes are spot on for me! Although the first week I had a couple episodes of vulnerable insecurity. This week I'm a lot more calm and able to enjoy life better. Almost like my baseline happiness has been increased.

Hope to continue to see your posts :)

-Your almost biHRTday twin Olivia

Republicans Issue New Government Shutdown Threat Over Trans People (USA) in c/lgbtq_plus@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 2 years ago (3 children)

It doesn't appear in the letter, but is mentioned in the article. The letter also states that there are "more" policies that need to be defunded.

These policies encompass bans on pride flags, prohibitions on insurance coverage, restrictions on DEI programs, and even the defunding of children’s hospitals that offer gender-affirming care.

Republicans Issue New Government Shutdown Threat Over Trans People (USA) in c/lgbtq_plus@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 81 points 2 years ago (8 children)

A ban on pride flags? Really? You're scared of some fabric or colors?

Grow up and mind your damn business. We're just trying to live our own lives. Fuck

Eyebrow advice? in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago

I found an amazing queer salon near me. They are fabulous and exactly what I needed! Came to them when I wanted to try my first femme cut and they walked me through it all. So next time I'm going in I'm having them wax my eyebrows for me. They know I want something feminine and to fit my face but I trust them to know when to use their professional discretion and when to ask for my input ❤️

Maybe look for a queer or trans allied salon you can go to? They can be expensive, but worth it if you find the right one.

[Update] Came out to my wife! in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 2 years ago

Congrats girlie! I'm very proud of you and happy to hear you have such a supportive wife!

I came out to my wife (and myself) on the same day back in October and she has been such a great support for me. Including celebrating my first biHRTday with thoughtful gifts last week.

If you're looking for a little advice, my best tip is to stay brutally honest. Both of you need to be honest with each other and make space for each other. Even when it's tough. There have been many times where my wife was struggling with aspects of the grief of losing me as a husband and it was difficult to hear that and know i was hurting her. Just like she gave me space for my breakdowns over rewriting my life and the guilt and shame I felt for how this affects her, my 19mo son, and everyone else in life.

Without those spaces to share and explore ALL emotions and feelings this brings up, we wouldn't have made it as a couple. Now we're closer than ever and although the grief can still get us, we also see all the new things we are gaining.

If you have any questions or want to reach out for any other reason, my DMs are open :) I'm sure I've come across many of the same bumps in the road as you have/will.

Take it a day at a time and remind each other you are committed and love each other. There will be many more conversations ahead of you, but you got this babe!

And again, congrats on finding yourself and sharing it with someone that you love! ❤️❤️

I did it ladies! Today is my BiHRTday in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 years ago

Thank you ❤️ I am too!

I did it ladies! Today is my BiHRTday in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Lol, I can definitely see how that could catch someone off guard. Yes I love pickles but it's more of a "remedy" for some of the side effects I may experience at first.

Specifically, the medication Spironolactone is used as a testosterone blocker. It's a medication that is prescribed for a bunch of different things (cystic acne, high blood pressure, hormonal imbalances in woman) but it's a class of drug called a potassium sparing diuretic. So it flushes the body of fluid but unlike other diuretics, it doesn't flush out potassium in the process. So this makes electrolytes go out of whack and your body's response is to crave salt in order to balance out the potassium and electrolytes (at least that is how I understand it?)

So the pickles are for my salt cravings basically. ❤️

Guess that was a bit of a long response, but hopefully you found it interesting. Thanks for the question and your support!

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I did it ladies! Today is my BiHRTday (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

I just took my first Spiro about an hour ago. I'll be doing my first E injection tonight (after my little one is asleep for the night) and I can not express all of the emotions I have been having over the past few days.

My wife surprised me with an amazing care package which included:

  • New pink reusable water bottle to keep me hydrated

-Obligatory cat ears (wearing right now)

-Trans flag socks :D

-Jar of pickles

-Custom trans colored m&Ms with sayings like "you are loved Olivia" "I want to see you be brave" "take your e today!"

-"The Blessed Unrest" vinyl by Sara Bareilles which has been very affirming for me as of late

-A beautiful finger painting my 19mo son made me of a butterfly and the words "and she became a beautiful butterfly"

-Pepper spray to keep me safe

-Super cute girly bandaids to use after my shots.

I balled like a baby. I cried more than I think I ever have before. I am so full of love and gratitude for this woman and her support. For my family. And for myself - for the first time in my life.

Just wanted to share with someone ❤️

Plight of the Transbian in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 years ago

This has been my experience my whole life 😭

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In waiting room for HRT (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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Hey all,

So I'm a nervous wreck waiting in the waiting room to start talking to an endocrinologist about HRT.

I know I want this. And I believe I need this to live but I am so paralyzed with anxiety 😬

Edit: thank you everyone for your support and kind words! That means the world to me ❤️

Just got home. The appointment went amazingly! My doctor took the time to listen to me and even went out of her way to refer me to vocal training with the hospitals speech therapist because I happened to say my voice was dysphoric. I didn't even know they had a speech therapist that does vocal feminization! Plus my insurance will most likely cover it 😄

She was kind, respectful and didn't trivialize my experience as a person or a woman.

Just need to wait for blood results to come back and I'll be in the needle club.

I'm starting off with (I think) 2mg injected in the thigh once a week and 100mg of Spiro a day with potentially adding progesterone if needed or wanted.

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Help with figuring out sperm storage (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

Hey ladies ❤️

I have my first consult with an endocrinologist on Monday to start HRT! I'm so excited to begin this part of the journey but have one snag that I'm having trouble getting past.

My wife and I are trying to store some of my sperm in case we want a second child in a few years. Obviously I need to do this before I can start E, but am having issues finding a bank near me and figuring out how much to store, how to prep and all that.

So a couple questions for those that went through the banking process before starting their journeys:

How much should I bank for IUI to "effectively guarantee" there will be enough stored to get a positive pregnancy? I've heard that IUI has a really low success rate, but I have no idea how much sperm is used per session and exactly how much I should store to make sure we don't run out?

Any one have experience using a mail in service? And if so, what was the process like? And are their labs out there that accept insurance?

What do I need to do in order to prep for deposit? I've read that abstinence for 5-7 days is ideal. What about medical tests or referrals?

Generally, any recommendations on mail in labs would be really helpful. Preferably with a lower up front cost for the mail kit, washing and prep, and maybe a year of storage to start off?

Thank you for any insights ❤️ this is my last step before I can dive into HRT and want to get to my biHRTday so bad 😭

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Valentine's Day Ideas? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

Hey friends ❤️

Bit of an off topic question, but could use some help from my sisters.

Coming up is the first Valentine's day that my wife and I have decided to celebrate. It's also the first one since I cracked my egg.

I'm weirdly at a loss for how to celebrate and what gifts to get my wife. Specifically, I would love to find a gift or make a meaningful memory for her as a thank you for her devotion and love for me. Especially after coming out and being my authentic self.

Does anyone have any ideas? Best I have thought of is a set of matching jewelry or maybe little love notes hidden around the house about why I love her.

Not really sure

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Wanting something desperately but not ready now? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

I think I'm struggling a bit on my self acceptance.

For example, I know that HRT is something I want. But I'm not ready for it right now. I have this strong desire to start it and start a more noticeable transition, but after looking more into it I got scared and dysphoric almost about the whole thing?

I have moments where I'm confident and want to move forward but also moments where I'm scared and it feels like too much.

Plus I feel like I'm running out the clock on my transition. I'm almost 30 and only came out to myself and my wife a month ago. I feel like I've wasted a lot of my life already in the wrong body and I feel like I need to play catch up almost.

I guess I'm wondering if these are common feelings people have when first starting off? Knowing that you want something for your transition but just not being ready yet. And this weird sense of time slipping away even faster than before? Almost like a mid life crisis... like a beginning transition crisis, lol

Just something I've been conflicted over the past week that I thought I would share with y'all. ❤️

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