lwhjp

joined 2 years ago
[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 month ago

Woah, awesome fit! You look great! And I'm very jealous of your hair <3

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yay, congratulations! I'd have gotten impatient and started DIY if I had to wait that long...

I started with gel (massive PITA to apply but works well), did injections for a while (kind of a bother even once a week, and hormone levels going up and down isn't very nice), and now on patches (awesome, no complaints). Probably only implants would be better.

Unless your cat is constantly licking wherever you applied the gel, you don't need to worry. You can wash your hands after applying!

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

They accepted her after nearly everyone got possessed.

Well yeah, but they didn't have a chance to up till that point. Rumi stayed in the closet until she was outed by the demons right at the end. As I see it, all the conflict within the trio was driven by her trying to stay hidden. The message I got was: you don't need to hide like you were taught as a kid; your friends will accept you; we're stronger together.

But perhaps that's just my experience coloring things. Society really has changed a lot since the 80s and 90s.

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 20 points 1 month ago (3 children)

No, I know how the plot of the movie goes. I'm taking it out of context.

 

OK, so this is just a screen capture with subtitles, but the line was just too perfect.

Everyone should have accepting friends like these ☺️

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 2 months ago

Now I kind of want some transparent mustard?

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 2 months ago

Hi there! Thanks for stopping by <3

wtf am I supposed to do with this?

I recommend transitioning. You'll feel a lot better.

How do I find out for sure?

If you think you are, you almost certainly are. But really, why worry about labels? The key question is, what do you want to do about it?

If it helps, the thing that made me absolutely certain was trying to imagine how I'd feel if I was actually a woman born and raised in a male vessel. Apart from being exactly what I was feeling, allowing myself to think of myself as a woman (even just hypothetically) felt so good I didn't want to stop.

Am I allowed to be a trans lesbian because I’m not attracted to men?

Sure! You're welcome to be a lesbian if you want.

Can I even come out, when it will ruin my whole life?

Ultimately it's your decision. You've probably already considered the worst-case scenario if you do, but people can surprise you. It probably won't be that bad!

Besides, you'll get to be a woman for the rest of your life. Isn't that worth a few awkward conversations?

I’m jealous of the youth, being old sucks.

Yeah, I know. I came out at 39. You can't change the past, but you can change the future! Pick the path that will bring you the most joy. Plus, trans people frequently end up looking shockingly youthful. Like, spookily so. There is still time.

Good luck!

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 6 points 2 months ago

Choo choo! Next stop 💖 GIRL TOWN 💖

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 2 months ago

Light skin; dark blonde here. My facial hair is darker than anywhere else. Six sessions at high power were enough to clear my cheeks and most of my neck of visible hairs, and significantly thin out around my mouth. I have quite a few gray hairs that will need electrolysis to clear, and I plan to take care of the rest that way too.

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 2 months ago

Yes! I second that. I grew up in a similar environment and it was very reassuring to read about Mia's experiences and thoughts.

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Not exactly the same, but starting out I felt really apprehensive about going out in overly feminine clothing. I guess I was embarrassed about possibly looking like a parody of a woman, or maybe just doing something new that I wasn't used to. Anyway, the times when I gave in to my fear and wore something plain and androgynous, I'd feel terrible, like I was suppressing myself. I wanted to look and feel pretty and feminine!

So whenever I was choosing my clothes for the day and I felt that "are you sure?" fear, I remembered that feeling of betraying myself by not wearing what I wanted to. At first I did have to force myself a bit, kind of not think about what I was doing, but as soon as I got outside and realized that nobody cared what I was wearing, I could relax and enjoy feeling good about myself. It got a lot easier pretty quickly after that.

I guess my answer is yeah, it is scary and I totally understand being reluctant to take that first step. (On the other hand, you've already come out and are using a new name! I'd have thought that was a much bigger hurdle than a few clothes.) Try not to think too hard about it. You're just ordering clothes; you don't have to wear them, or show them to anybody. Then you can just wear them in your room; nobody has to see. And finally when you're used to that, make a short trip outside, or whatever. Baby steps. If at any point it turns out you don't like it, you can always stop, no harm done, right?

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 2 months ago

MAXIMUM🩷GAY

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 13 points 2 months ago

Hope you feel better on the estrogen than on the booze <3

I guess... order a skirt as well? ;3

 

I'm terrible at posing, but I did manage to get a good shot instead of my ADHD "the person you are talking to has left the conversation" face.

I remember starting out seeing people post timelines a year or more in and thinking how impossibly distant it seemed. But now here I am after a year, and even I have to admit I look a bit different. It's been crazy, but I'm sooo glad I did it. Here's to another year, and another...

 

Did you get rid of the vellus (fine, downy) hairs as well? I realize the correct answer is "ask your surgeon", but...

The best I can find is that it probably doesn't matter, but since they have the potential to develop into a problem down the road I'm leaning towards better safe than sorry. My electrolysist (electrolygist?) wasn't sure. Hence The straw poll.

Thanks!

 

I'm struggling to believe that the same person fit in both tops.

 

I picked up a crowdfunding flyer for the movie at pride last weekend, so I had to check out the manga as well. It's four poignant short stories featuring trans girls at various stages of their transitions. The author is of course trans and the characters are spot on. The physical presentation of the book is very nice too, on thick paper with a pink, white and blue glitter on the cover.

Apparently the stories have been around on the net for a little while, so maybe there is an English translation out there somewhere?

Anyway, ¥1815 well spent. I recommend it if you read Japanese and can get hold of a copy.

 

I always did particularly like chocolate, but it just goes to show, doesn't it?

 

It does hurt like hell. Yay, I guess? /humblebrag

 

I never used to get shaving cuts before E. Can't finish hair removal soon enough.

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