Hey, if hips are something you want, you need to start HRT as soon as possible. Once your bones are set they don't really change, only fat distribution (which does help, as well as the workout tips mentioned by the other commentator.
It's been my experience (at 30) that estrogen doesn't change my body, only the directions it follows when I work to change it, so I very heavily concur with the workout advice!
This is absolutely something I struggled with. My field is healthcare, and I felt and continue to feel presenting masculine is the safest option. Even if not traditionally masculine (i have my nails done a really pretty purpleblack right now, and am known to braid some of my coworkers hair), the ability to just... exist unbothered as a man is extremely useful.
a few of them know me as trans, but it's also nice to be a bit choosy.
The advantage of being unable to pass as a cis woman means it's still possible to retain your male privilege, and while i'd happily make that trade- it's not something in my power to do right now.
My goals primarily are to feel comfortable and safe in my own skin. Amongst my friends, and even like... bystanders in the grocery store, that means being a woman. Amongst my coworkers however, i unfortunately feel more comfortable as a man; for me.. the dysphoria isn't as bad as the bigotry. But it's a decision you'll have to make for yourself
I just.. tried a bunch. Alexandra was my first, used it for about 6 months online. Didn't like it. Too harsh. Then I tried Sarah, felt better, new test group.. but wasn't right. Unsure why, just wasn't me. Tried Amanda, and that was it.
The downside of this is you have to make disposable friend groups. I made mine on old internet kink websites, a few focused on like.. pre-written "teases". It kept things fairly transactional and anonymous so there wasn't any relationships to break, just another content creator disappearing