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[–] Transtronaut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Tangential, but since you asked...

Turns out "nervosity" is a word in English. It's used so rarely, though, that I had to look it up to be sure. What you wrote was perfectly correct, but in that context, most people would probably say something like "nervousness" or "anxiety" (at least in my U.S.-centric experience).

For the record, having learned it, I now like "nervosity" better, and (unless I forget, which is likely) intend to start using it.

[–] Transtronaut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

You've already got a ton of great advice, and it sounds like your next steps are lined up, so I'll just throw in some words of encouragement and further reading in case you're interested.

Since I had my moment of realization, the mindset I've tried to stick to is "the only way out is through." For me, at this point, that means transition, but it doesn't have to - that's up to you. The reason I bring it up is because it's very easy for this kind of thing to be derailed by the complexities, distractions, and dramatic events of regular life - especially if you turn out to be repressed and looking for excuses to kick the can down the road, like I was. You will likely benefit from sticking with it, in the sense of really engaging with this question and carrying through until you find a satisfying answer for yourself, whatever that answer will end up being. If you are transgender, delaying it will only mean coming back to it later in life, after having suffered needlessly. And if you're not, there's no harm in having taken the time to know yourself a bit better.

I'd also like to share some links that were instrumental to me getting through the questioning phase to the other side, in the order I encountered them.

Hope some of that helps, or is at least interesting.

That's awesome, I'm genuinely happy for you! ❤️ Hopefully, I'll experience the same, but my hair loss started over 15 years ago, so I don't want to build my hopes up. That's partly why I was holding off, though - to wait and see if I luck out and end up not needing transplants after all. But you make a good point; I imagine I should at least be able to start on facial hair.

[–] Transtronaut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I like the sound of that! It's definitely on my list of priorities, but I haven't managed to start yet. Do you have any suggestions on the nature of the exercise? I struggle with energy and motivation, so keeping it simple and easy to implement is paramount. Planning to start simple with walking and stairs, then if/when I feel up to it, branch out into something basic like dumbbells or maybe novice yoga if that's safe to do without an instructor.

[–] Transtronaut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Thank you! That sounds handy. I'm great at forgetting things.

I've been dragging my feet on hair removal, mostly because I'll probably end up needing hair transplants and I'm not sure where they'll be taking them from. Don't want to end up messing that up somehow. Definitely sounds like the sort of thing that is best started sooner rather than later, though.

I'm basically in the same boat, so take my input with a grain of salt. That said, from what I've read, it's important to avoid, or at least be careful with, guides that focus on muscle training. There are exercises out there that can apparently be harmful and cause injury. When I get started in earnest, I'm planning to begin with TransVoiceLessons on YouTube. The girl in those videos frequently makes the point that nothing in voice training should be painful or cause strain, which sounds sensible and encouraging to me. Of course, there will be muscle memory training - it's muscle strength training that can be problematic.

That might be off topic to your actual question, but I wanted to throw it out there just in case.

[–] Transtronaut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

For what it's worth, you're far from running out the clock. If you're still in your 20s you have a lot of life left to live and are lucky you've figured this out as early as you have, even if it doesn't seem like it.

I don't know what you've already done, but one approach is to try less extreme measures first and ease into it a bit. Clothes, makeup, mannerisms, pronouns, etc. You could consider stopgap measures like focusing on hair loss prevention/restoration as a way to buy time and feel like you're doing something concrete while you sort your feelings out.

Some of these themes also touch on topics discussed in this post from a while back - you may find some of the discussion helpful: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/4266431

EDIT: Forgot to specify; these are definitely common feelings, if my own experience and internet-binging results are any indication. You'll get through it. ❤️

EDIT2: lol, I didn't see who posted this until now. 😅😭🤣

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