Robyn

Literally nobody claimed otherwise.

When it comes to mood, I honestly can’t tell what is because of HRT and what is because of changes in my life, it’s been far too dramatic lately :P

Anyways, I do always look forward to injection day! And I love doing em and feel amazing afterwards! Tho it’s only a mood thing. And again, could just be the joy of continuing a ritual that brings me the desired changes in life. Either way I’m not complaining, either effect is 100% desirable in my opinion! ^^

It’s interesting to me to compare my excitement around injections with my roommate, who sees it more like a chore I have to help remind her to do.

It confuses me too. Most HRT medications were originally developed for cis people. I find it cruel to restrict access for trans and gender non-conforming people when the same treatments are readily available to cis people.

I’m not disagreeing with anything you’re saying, I just want to clarify, because I think we’re talking past each other. I tried my best to express that systemic issues are indeed far greater and not comparable to these interpersonal ones. The point I was making, was that dismissing their notion outright as some false flag operation is hurtful and only deepens the actual systemic issues by alienating potential allies.

To explain why this dismissal matters, I will elaborate on my personal experience. This will be long and messy. If after this you’re still just restating the same point we both agree on, then it’s probably best to leave it there.

Being bullied for being “girly” and “gay” was the least of my issues, I could have kept living in my assigned role, even if unhappy. My real issue was me developing a seething pathological hatred for men. Society treated me like a threat by default, because of my assigned gender, and eventually I started believing it. That I was a literal monster, that it wasn’t just some expectation, that there was something fundamentally wrong with me, something seriously broken in my head, simply for being born male. I was never misogynist, in fact I always looked up to women. And yet, this belief of inherent wrongness, was my hook into the right wing. Teen me didn’t believe in trans rights, because he believed all “males” must suffer. He didn’t help anyone suffering from injustice, because he believed he was so exceptionally wrong, that self erasure was the best possible outcome. He believed in a strict hierarchy where his mere existence was a death sentence. He was a hateful bigot that celebrated cruelty. He became a part of the problem he hated so much. And all that could have been prevented if only a single person didn’t dismiss him. That was all it took to eventually heal me, one person showing compassion.

I sadly can’t say anything about racism, as that is simply not an area I have experience with, living in an extremely mono ethnic country (ofc as you mentioned, my ancestors might have a clue why that is). But it’s not hard to imagine someone developing similar beliefs when taught from a young age that some people are predisposed to hurt the things they care for.

I get your point, but your original comment didn’t specify “societal” or “structural.” Of course there’s no systemic misandry or “reverse racism”, and the issues you mentioned are far more serious, by several orders of magnitude. Still, misandry does exist on an interpersonal level, and it affects real people. Dismissing it outright feels insensitive, even if it’s not comparable in scale or impact.

For example, toxic masculinity harms women much more deeply, but it also harms men. Acknowledging that helps men see that they don’t have to conform to abusive or repressive norms to be accepted. Rejecting that nuance risks alienating people who might otherwise support feminist goals.

I was in that position once. In my teens, internalized misandry kept me stuck in the right-wing pipeline and made transitioning an absolute impossibility. I used to be an enabler, I’m ashamed of my past, almost as much as teen me was ashamed of existing. But it is real and could have been prevented.

Ok, that makes more sense, but I don’t see that assumption in the original post. The word “attractive” has no inherent sexual meaning. That’s why people usually say “sexually attractive” or use a different world like “hot”.

If I may offer a suggestion for the future, try to think if your comment might need context. Your original comment has nothing, leaving it to the reader to interpret the meaning. And nobody is going to assume that you’re referencing a different issue if you don’t explicitly state it. Leading to the only reasonable assumption of it deconstructing the original post.

Absolutely perfect! We need more whimsy in life.