Pencilnoob

Ages are 18-40.

Yeah that is pretty close to my experience, but thankfully none have been that fluid about it. Just changing week by week instead of minute by minute

Not looking for sympathy or advice, just here's my trend over time to deal with this.

I am making considerable effort (and regularly failing because damn verbal ticks plus ADHD got hands) to avoid using any gendered or gender neutral terms as the folks in my community change pronouns and names regularly. I just got pretty harshly scolded the other day for using a gender neutral pronoun to refer to a person who told me to use it two months ago, but now it makes that person feel bad and this was the first I heard of it. Almost all of these people are not fully out so I have to keep a mental map of who gets what names and pronouns get used with what people.

I cannot learn and unlearn them fast enough, keep the right context of who is is the room, and keep up with current preferred names and pronouns which change semi-regularly. I cannot overstate how hard this is for my ADHD ass.

Especially when person A is out to B but not C, and D is out to C but not B, and I'm talking to B but C walks in the room, but then B leaves and I'm alone with C. This seems to happen to me several times a week. The mental gymnastics is absolutely thrashing my CPU. And I am trying my damnedest but keep fucking it up and making my friends sad.

I think I'm too ADHD to use pronouns, so I just attempt to use people's current names directly (still keeping attention to who they are out to) or just never speak about them to others and use no names or pronouns at all when talking directly. The latter is easier overall, so that's generally what I aim for. Never talking about these people feels like erasure or something but that seems like the best way to avoid causing what seems to be significant emotional pain and/or accidental outing.

There's some where it's stable enough to at least use names directly, but those are few. And those still aren't out at large, so I'm still faced with the accidental outing issue which is very real.

I guess I'm doing something right because it seems I'm always in the know. I legit want to be an ally to folks and support them in whatever. Just damn I'm not smart enough. I need like a universal translator.

I have pretty good smell, like I can sometimes follow a person's scent trail, can tell who are related, smell cooking in neighbors houses, etc.

I suspect we would decide that farts are socially acceptable. Lots more people sneak farts than you'd think, and you just get used to it. Calling it out is crass and childish. Same with bad breath, general BO, skin, stuff on shoes. But also mold and yeast in places you wouldn't suspect. We'd instantly ban all scented soaps, dishwasher detergents, and especially dryer sheets, those smell awful.

I definitely have a higher tolerance for natural smells but much lower tolerance for synthetic smells from the average person.

As an unrepentant Fate Core player / GM, I love playing weird characters with lots of flaws to harvest the sweet Fate Points.

My favorite characters will have a ridiculous backstory with lots of grudges, fueds, romances, and allies who show up all the time in play.

My favorite concept yet was a character in a superhero game that has a pinnacle skill of Contacts (and second of Resources), because he is normal human who is owed favors from nearly every superhero in the universe. He's a wheeler and dealer of tech both medical, alien, arcane, and divine. Superheroes are always reaching out needing something extra, and he takes payments in favors. Any given time there's a fight he can call in a favor from any superhero I can imagine (while he hides behind a wall or something). Of course if he doesn't roll well enough, the superhero in question was busy, tied up, unconscious, didn't have their phone, etc. And then he's in trouble! Good times.

Fantastic, this got me chuckling!

Genderfluid/genderqueer folks are just running an inherently secure OS, you can't argue with this logic. New headcanon

Congrats Kaityy, you go girl! No matter where your journey takes you and who you discovery yourself to be, I hope that you are always able to love yourself. When others are cruel, may you turn around and love them back with the same love we have for you. Life is a hard road, but feel the strength of every one of your grandmothers give you courage to lift your head up to face the new dawn. May all of their combined compassion, love, wisdom, and bravery be imbued in you, their newest daughter, and our newest sister, forever.

This the same famously corrupt Ken Paxton who is indicted on securities fraud and bribery? Who then was suspended from office by the TX house of representatives?

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ken_Paxton

Sure seems like he should be worrying more about his own affairs rather than oppressing trans folks