Not the origonal commenter, but "analogous to deadnaming" is certainly how it can feel sometimes.
Obviously there's innocent mistakes/forgetfulness, but when someone had no problem calling a (passing) trans person by the correct binary pronoun but suddenly "can't remember" or reverts to "they/them" once they learn you're trans - there's clearly something else going on there. It's additionally upsetting because the slight is subtle enough, and the excuse believable enough, that you can't easily explain why it's a problem to people who don't already understand it.
Not the origonal commenter, but "analogous to deadnaming" is certainly how it can feel sometimes.
Obviously there's innocent mistakes/forgetfulness, but when someone had no problem calling a (passing) trans person by the correct binary pronoun but suddenly "can't remember" or reverts to "they/them" once they learn you're trans - there's clearly something else going on there. It's additionally upsetting because the slight is subtle enough, and the excuse believable enough, that you can't easily explain why it's a problem to people who don't already understand it.