A bit different? Girl, you look like a whole other person! Femininity becomes you.
Evkob
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Memes and veganism are not the same :/
I don't want to doubt your 80 year old friend, but I'm doubting your 80 year old friend.
I use they/them pronouns and work in the service industry. I've also worked with a few other trans people. That story is basically the opposite of how trans people act in public at their jobs, in my experience. We'll only every really correct people who misgender us if they're regulars and give off an OK vibe.
For me or anyone I know to call out a customer and tell them they're being rude would require something really egregious.
If the story is at all true, I'd bet your friend called her "sir" or something when asking for the refill.
I spent so, so much time in trans subreddits, especially /r/egg_irl.
It took over two years of basically exclusively looking at trans memes, "to get a better understanding of the trans experience as an ally", for me to start considering I might be trans!
I also recall a time near the beginning of that trans meme phase where I said to a friend "I think I'm probably non-binary". He was like "what?" to which I answered "what?" and I just left it at that, not even a hint of introspection.
I copy-pasted the quote in a spoiler tag because scrolling through the in-line code markdown is an awful way to read text.
Quote from Lana
No, I didn’t [confirm The Matrix is a trans allegory].
Yeah, so that came from an interview I did for Disclosure. They had a bunch of Matrix questions. And the question they asked me was about Switch, who was originally written as a trans character who was male in the real world and female in the matrix. And they took that response and attached the question that everyone now references that it’s a trans allegory. And so it was slightly out of context, but I don’t sit here and put a stink up about it, because it is a trans allegory in that it was written by two closeted trans women. And so all of the things that are in it are super-duper trans. The idea of transformation, even the whole “My name is Neo, Mr. Anderson —” that idea of claiming identity, it’s undeniable.
Yeah, with all the decisions we made with that film, there’s just this burbling transness simmering below everything. So when I look back at the way that we cast those two parts, I can see how obvious it is that they’re one part in a lot of ways; that they’re two sides of the same coin. It’s not like these were conscious decisions, but more like we’re finding our way instinctively as these two closeted trans women. So all those things that your receptors are buzzing about are completely valid. When people say, “Oh, it’s a trans allegory,” it’s like, “Yeah… it is, but we weren’t like, Hey, let’s write a trans allegory.” That’s not how it started. We were like, “Hey, let’s write this action film,” and then we got our trans all over it. [laughs]
I always enjoy talking to the elder gays, even though sometimes the men will be kinda inappropriate.
My favourite was this one old guy who came up to me while I was on a smoke break at work and immediately asked me "you're trans, aren't you?"
When I apprehensively said yes, he revealed he had transitioned in the late '80s! We had a nice little chat while I finished my smoke, he was really sweet and super proud of how comfortable the new generation of queers was being themselves. I definitely went into the bathroom to have a little happy cry afterwards.
Sure, if you zone in on the prefix, it definitely means two, but the word bisexual itself has been used to denote "attraction to more than one gender" for ages.
Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don't assume that there are only two genders.
–Excerpt from the first edition of Anything That Moves, a bisexual magazine, initially published in 1991
Do you know the song Chop Suey, by System of a Down?
Do you know the original name of that song, before the record company forced them to change it?
That's what she's referring to, I think.
Hint
Suicide
This is the second post today I've seen from you about transphobic vegans. Personally, I've met way more queer vegans/vegetarians than transphobic ones, so I kinda question how much of an issue this really is.
For sure there's a subsection of vegans, the more granola "everything must be natural" side, that can tend towards transphobia (ever heard of the woo-to-Q pipeline?) but I don't think it's nearly as common as your posts indicate.
I'm trans and vegan and to me it just seems disproportionate to equate a vegan organization that has issues with misgendering to fascist political figures actively attacking our rights.
I've never had to deal with this, but my take is that you shouldn't feel bad for not offering up information, especially in a context where you don't necessarily feel safe to do so.
I wouldn't really consider this to be lying, either. Your bosses or coworkers don't have a right to know you're trans. Like, I don't share my spiritual beliefs with anyone at work, for example. That doesn't make me a liar. You're entitled to your privacy, even more so when revealing something could be harmful for you.
Best of luck navigating this, it sounds like a rather tricky situation to be in.
Detransitioners exist, but they are such a tiny minority of people who receive gender-affirming care. IIRC, more people regret having knee surgery than any surgery associated with a gender transition. Should we ban knee surgery?!
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Too late, it sounds like he fuck-zoned her.