Arkhive

Oh, no that’s what mean. I’m trans femme, so I don’t really relate. Or maybe it’s that I relate in a sort of opposite way…idk

Does it break the egg prime directive to send this to my guy friends that are maybe questioning a bit…???

It’s sort of the femme version of my given name. There’s a lot of history in my family with that name that I do appreciate and value and want to feel connected to. I did a bunch of research into the names and language of where my family originated and found my new name and instantly fell in love with it. I remember sobbing after writing it down for the first time.

I rock climb as my job (route setter). I find full on tucking to be really rough for being active multiple days in a row (4 day 10hr shifts work week). As such I layer comfy underwear of choice (in your case something geared toward hiking), then “booty shorts” or whatever. Like spandex type things and then a pair of snug but not tight joggers from Prana. If I want to add leggings for warmth, I’ll put those on first and then still layer the shorts and pants as I find my gear and friction on my legs will try to slide the leggings down. If I want to do just leggings I can get away with putting the shorts under the leggings but for climbing and hiking it turns into a lot of adjusting.

I guess it’s worth noting that I am generally not a super sweaty person, like definitely well below the average. Especially coupled with my smell getting even less offensive on hrt, I’m sure I’m able to get away with a lot tucking wise and just smell in general.

I like Prana’s clothes, even though they can be a tad pricey, particularly their more technical pants. I don’t think they do underwear, and the only other spots I can think of aren’t really companies I love supporting anymore (Patagonia and REI). I’ve found Popflex leggings and shorts because they don’t have a front seam, which is a dream for tucking.

I get this more and more often!! Even just passing by a mirror the other day I had to double back because I caught a glimpse of a woman looking back at me!! 💜

I honestly had something very similar happen timing wise. A breakup that coincided with me starting hrt. It was a rough combo, but similarly finding roommates that I trust with my whole self has helped a ton.

I have some bikini shorts combos I like. I wear them over bikini bottoms and tuck tape. Plus a sheer coverup I’m generally very comfortable and confident. Gives me options depending on setting, like if I’m just lounging/tanning I can take the shorts off, or walking a public beach I might toss the shorts and cover up on. Some of my favorites are from Prana, but they can be a tad pricey.

Could you cross post this to !ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone? I thought about doing it myself, but I think having it come from you is more important. People often default to referencing and addressing trans femme folks as the sort of representatives of all trans people, and that often ends up making our siblings feel very unseen.

No questions off the top of my head, but I just wanted to say thank you and that I saved your post!!

Not explicitly a trans story, but “The Free People’s Village” is a book that gave me a lot of hope in the end. It is often way to real and parallels waves events scarily well, but the story is one of persistence.

I’m at least 4 of these lol, no shot I could narrow it down from there.

Also as a programmer transfem I’m obligated to say, “it’s arch btw” might want to tweak the logo on that laptop lol.

Good meme XD

Philly has been great to me. I’d say west or the gayborhood if you can afford it. I live a bit out of the city and def see some yard signs and bumper stickers that give the ick, but there’s good queer community, and I’m meeting more trans people almost every weekend.