Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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That psychologist is a transphobe, I wouldn't go back if you can help it. If you can't find someone who is themselves queer, it might be worth trying to find one who practices "trauma informed care" and or treats CPTSD. Trauma informed care focuses on making the client/patient feel safe enough to work on problems; and bigots tend to be less likely to accept trauma from long term abuse/neglect as a legitimate thing, and often reject CPTSD offhandedly.
If you are in the US, there is a directory on Psychology Today that can be helpful, and telehealth may be worth looking into to expand your options. If you do go telehealth, watch out for chains like Better Help who got caught selling medical info.
I've learned in my personal search for a therapist that the first couple of appointments is/should be a sort of interview process where both parties assess if it is a good match. A specific provider could be the best one in the world while being a poor, or even harmful match for you. It they ard a poor match, you can always find another one. At this point I have a list of issues, like chronic suicidality and queer stuff, that I bring up while watching their response so I can guage if we'll get along. Sadly liberals and some leftists tend to be more likely to hide their transphobia/biases, so phrasing, tone, and body language are things worth keeping an eye on until trust is built.
Finding good (for you) mental health providers can be a lot of work, but is worth it.