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Hi,

I'm a recently cracked egg, and I figure I might as well introduce myself here.

I made it to age 31 before I figured it out. I've been dating a trans girl for over 3 years before realizing that I also am one, so I'm coming into it with a lot of knowledge, and as soon as my mind was opened to it I very quickly became sure of it. On the plus side, that means that I don't have any doubts about it myself.

So far I've told my girlfriend, therapist, parents, and some online friends. Mostly they've taken it well (My therapist and girlfriend were apparently expecting it before I realized it myself), although my dad has been somewhat resistant. I've been trying to convince him that it's right for me, with moderate success. I think I will be able to bring him around, with some more time. I've been too chicken to tell others that I know IRL, so far.

Also... now is not really a great time to be transitioning, given the current state of the world, especially the US (where I live). I think I definitely want to go ahead with it anyways, but I'll probably take some time before I pull the trigger on a social transition, and try to prepare some things beforehand. In particular, I want to do voice training in advance, and probably work on some fashion and makeup skills so I can immediately transition my voice and surface level appearance when I social transition.

I don't know if my new employer (starting next month) will be accepting of it, either, so maybe I want to work that job for a bit to get experience and test the waters before I decide how to proceed. I probably want to get some experience from that job before I bounce from it, so it would be ideal if they are accepting.

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Some hope for our trans friends

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Closeted transfem person here who's Closeted because I want to become independent and get my own stable place to live before I come out.

I just had a few questions and wanted to ask them in one post instead of multiple posts

  • Closeted transfem women pre physical transition who are also lesbian, for those of you that do feel this how do you deal with that wierdness that you feel when calling yourself lesbian and identifying as lesbian even though you look down and see a male body?
  • To Transfem women with autism, I'm also on the spectrum. Is there anything I should know?
  • Closeted Transfem women still living with parents, how do I secretly be feminine without my parents finding out
  • Transfem women who moved out of their hometown to a more progressive city, What steps did you take? I currently don't like my hometown because of its voting demographics favouring the political party equivalent here in Australia that mirrors right wingers & terrible people from america and my local crime watch group on Facebook which has a large amount of my hometowns population in it has a percentage of awful members in it
  • Closeted transfem women who can't go to see therapists due to living with parents, how do you self manage your mental health and self therapy yourself
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Pride month is coming up and this is a great documentary about our LGBTQ history.

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Over on Reddit, u/Duck_Suit has announced a Google Docs-based tool for quickly filtering spells based on mechanical criteria and casting options. Currently, it's supporting Rank 1 spells, but they intend to flesh it out up to Rank 10.

Seems like a decent little offline resource for caster players.

Original post below:


I love playing spell casters, but the honest truth is that there is an intimidatingly large number of PF2e spells and there is currently no great way of filtering those spells or directly comparing them. Having so many spell options should be an awesome part of the game, not a un-parsable barrier.

For this reason, I have been developing Keth's Spellbook:

https://sites.google.com/view/kethsspellbook?usp=sharing

The spellbook allows magic users to quickly filter spells based on essentially any mechanical criteria, heighten spells and adjust casting options, and create personal spell list.

I have had a lot of fun making and using this resource and I think you will enjoy it as well. Please visit the website above to check it out for yourself! Consider leaving feedback here or at the bottom of the website so that I can take it into consideration for future versions.

Note: The beta contains all 227 available Rank 1 spell and cantrips from the 4 standard magic traditions for the PF2e remaster, though I plan to include all spells to Rank 10 in the future (including class-specific spells and Starfinder 2e spells). Be on the lookout for updates to the spellbook!

Note: I know and love Archive of Nethys. In fact, every spell in the spellbook has a link to its AoN entry for reference. However, I think that this spellbook adds to what is available on AoN and is not redundant with it. Spell filtering on AoN is a bit obtuse in my opinion.


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Specifcally, people from:

  • germany (49.9%)
  • sweden (49.96%)
  • austria (25.5%)
  • Slovenia (83.14%)
  • portugal (24.46%)

Should sign.

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Just a quick reminder - if you're an EU citizen, there are still a few days left to support the petition to ban coversion therapy in the EU.

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Yep (lazysoci.al)
submitted 10 months ago by CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al to c/cat@lemmy.world
 
 
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Sorry in advance, I'm pretty exhausted emotionally and I'm not sure what I'm doing. Just needed to spill some thoughts somewhere.

I'm finally having my orchie next week and even though I'm a bit anxious, that's more about the recovery aspect. I'm so happy to have something out of my body that's caused me so much turmoil since 2004. It's hard to be excited after all of the insanity to get me to this point though.

It seems like nothing was able to go right for me. I knew in 2004 I "wanted to be a girl." I knew in 2011 I was trans when I first came out to my parents. They stonewalled access to HRT. In 2012 I moved across the country to transition in private. Dad disowned me, mom and I spoke but you could tell there was tension. My brother was fairly absent, as he is. I wound up struggling by being alone in a new city so far away, so I detransitioned and moved home.

Shortly afterwards I reconnected with a friend from school, we dated and got married. I became a stepparent to her son. Life was happy, but, it wasn't quite the life I wanted. I didn't like being husband and father. I hated the skills I was learning to be "man of the house." I hated the expectation of being the stern parental figure. I hated feeling like my sole purpose was to provide stability and just be invisible otherwise. I drank beer or rum and smoked weed every single night. Some nights I added in sleep meds to help me rest and drown out the noise in my head.

She knew my history. She knew I transitioned before. She had told me over and over and over in our marriage that she was supportive and didn't mind. When I realized I was trans and needed to transition again, she said "I knew this day would come. I'm your #1 biggest fan and you have my full support." I thought I finally, FINALLY was getting the life I dreamed of. My best friend from childhood as my life partner, her beautiful son, the body and role I needed in life, and importantly, support for who I was.

She asked me for a divorce last year. She stopped letting me see her son. She's moved on and is seeing someone else. I couldn't keep hiding from my father, so I told him I was transitioning again. He took me out of his will and is planning on leaving the state when my grandmother dies, saying "he has nothing to stay for" after that. Said grandmother also stopped speaking to me. When a friend rescheduled plans on me and I dared to vent about the losses in the same conversation, they came back with "manipulating them will only push them away." I explained that I wasn't manipulating them, but they were welcome to add onto everything too if they'd like.

He stopped speaking to me. I left the group chat because I couldn't be around that nonsense. No one has checked on me in a month. I just up and left and no one cared. I imagine a story was told to make me look like a bad person again. I don't think I care anymore either.

I'm finally having my orchie next week, and I'm so happy, but it's so hard to feel excited when I understand it's cost me my wife, son, father, grandmother, and so many other things I haven't touched on. It's a win that doesn't feel like it compensates for the atrocious amount of bullshit the last 13 months has given me. I know, it's a marathon, but come on. I don't get parents who care? I don't get a spouse? A family? Nothing? Literally, my goal post surgery is to save money and move to the city and have a clean slate. My goal is LITERALLY start fresh with nothing, for the second time in my life.

What a joke.

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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by kichae@wanderingadventure.party to c/pathfinder@ttrpg.network
 
 

cross-posted from r/Pathfinder2e


TL;DR: Turning the difficulty slider down can give a different experience that is still fun!

Let me start by saying I love PF2e. It's not perfect but its my favorite high fantasy system that I've played and the main group I play with has been running 2e for a few years now and it has entirely been run in the DMs homebrew world (so no APs). All encounters are made by the DM.

One thing I noticed after a while is that my experience was different than the experience of others based on posts in this sub. A lot of the discourse focuses on "the value of a +1 bonus" or "Spellcasters aren't actually weak" or around how to optimize or use teamwork to deal with severe encounters. All of which is super interesting but I think might be scary to a new person whos curious about the "vibe" of PF2e (particularly folks who might be emigrating from 5e). Its my understanding that a lot of this discussion came about due to some of the early APs being overtuned and kind of requiring optimizations and strategic thinking so I think its helpful to have those discussions for people running those types of campaigns but I wanted to offer a perspective from the other end of the difficulty scale.

As I said, the table I play in is a homebrew setting and the campaign is entirely the work of our lovely DM. The story is interesting, our characters are fun, and the encounters are interesting but... the difficulty very rarely rises above moderate. Early on when we were first getting used to the system there were a few encounters in the hard range that I think caught us off guard and the DM dialed back the difficulty and since then as never really ramped it up much other than for the occasional boss at the end of an arc. Most encounters also lean towards the "lots of lower level dudes" as opposed to "one big monster" which I think also contributes to the difference in tone.

At first I was kind of leery of this cause I enjoy some crunch and tactics (as do most of the people at the table) but I now realize that it's pretty liberating. Knowing that I don't need to squeek out every possible bonus really expands the options available. When optimizing there tends to be options that are just flat better than others (this is far less an issue in 2e than in other systems, mind you) and if you're expecting to run into a severe encounter then "every +1 matters" becomes really really true. Choosing to take a suboptimal feat or spell or choosing to do an interesting but tactically unsound action can become real liability. But when you know that you can still pretty reliably hit even without flanking for offguard then you can start doing funny stuff without holding back your party.

This is especially true for spellcasters. I don't think spellcasters are underpowered in 2e, but I do think that there are a lot of spells that sound cool but mechanically just don't do enough. Well in our campaign, since everything tends to be lower level, suddenly those incapacitation spells start working as you fantasize them working. Hordes of mooks make wizards feel like gods again without overshadowing the "boss" encounters.

On the other side of the screen I feel like this also made things a bit more fun for our DM. If winning or losing fights aren't as uncertain then you can start adding in extra variables without the fear of going to far. There was a point where I noticed that he started to get a lot more creative with the combat arenas. For example one fight was against a group of goblins all PL-2 or less. On paper probably a moderate encounter. But the fight took place on a series of suspended platforms over a bottomless pit, where everyone needed to hop from platform to platform. The goblins had a mix of shooters and bruisers who were trying to push us off the platforms. There was tension, there was drama, and there was silliness which made for an extremely rememberable encounter even though in hindsight the actual risk was relatively small.

Most of the "Drama" comes from the sandboxy nature of the campaign. The choices we make outside of combat tends to have the biggest effects.

In summary, this is just a post that says the difficulty slider can be turned down as well as up and the game is still fun. I've played it both ways with various groups and I see the benefits of both.


I really liked this post by u/Slavasonic over on Reddit. Not only does it reflect my own experience running a beer-and-pretzles game with childen (a pop-and-chips game?), but it's actually not been down-voted into a smoking crater, which means it's probably doing something to connect with people that I've not yet figured out.

As my table continues to evolve, I've become increasingly enthusiastic about 2e's effectiveness in more casual games, and as a story engine for narrative and character-driven play. It provides a full "physics" engine in the box that I can tune to my heart's desires. The result has been really great, and discussion of it has gotten a ton of pushback by the community over on Reddit.

Edit: NodeBB seems to be hijacking the blockquote formatting, so I'm switching to horizontal-rules to encapsulate the quoted post.

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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today to c/cat@lemmy.world
 
 

My cat was having none of my ish!

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/29163438

One of mine likes to tug my bathrobe rope tie thing (hell even the whole robe lol) as I walk by her perch so now I'll lay at one end of the couch and tug of war the bathrobe rope by itself with her on the opposite side of the couch to mutual delight

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