It's my personal experience, so I was wrong in generalizing it, I guess.
But imo this mindset of having yourself dead for some time leads me to spread the victim mindset on my entire life eventually. This is not healthy and I'm trying to avoid it at all costs.
But the fact that we evolve and mature doesn't make us less terrible. We are those people who did and said these things, even if in the last several years we were ok human beings.
We are whole and we can't say that we are the people that were existing last 15 years, but the person before wasn't us, it was a dumbass.
It's beyond my comprehension. I had this phase in my teens when I was harassing LGBT people (I'm a terrible person, I know), but even for me in my teens it's unacceptable to proclaim one's child because she decided to transition. That's on a very different level of hatred.
Paladin could maul the body in order to educate the soul
Thanks for your perspective, but it doesn't work for me that way.
Yes, I'm trying my best to become a better person tomorrow, but it doesn't come from nowhere. I did a lot of awful stuff, it was me, not someone who's dead right now. It was me all the time.
When I try to rationalize that behavior I always find myself in a loop where I jump from "nope, it was not me, it's my parents' influence" to "I've been rude to my gf today because I haven't had enough sleep". That's a victim mindset and I've been in therapy for far too long to relapse today just because I want to feel good about myself.