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I got to go as Enid from Wednesday and was super happy! It was my first Halloween post-transition, and I had a great time.

I failed so hard there were multiple people in my extended friend group who didn't realize I hadn't actually started transitioning. Mind you, I hadn't even admitted to myself that I was trans at that point and was repressing it super hard. Mfers saw me as a woman before I did 🥲

Oh, for sure. Fortunately, we do have laws protecting GAH and LGBTQ+ non-discrimination, albeit unfortunately only for adults at this time. Still, medical providers have emphasized their commitment to providing care for trans kids too, even if it's not enshrined in law yet.

Come to your neighbor in the north! We're pretty trans friendly up here in SE Michigan and job opportunities are pretty good.

I can really only answer the first two or three as I was already on my own when I was out/transitioned.

1. There's a lot of internalized transphobia that definitely makes this really challenging early on. I had a buddy who's dad loved to say shit like "I'm a teenage lesbian trapped in a man's body" and it always felt super icky. I definitely feel that ick waning as I transition, but there are still those "man pretending to be a woman" brainworms that bug me from time to time.

2. I feel like at least half the trans people I know are on the spectrum, so you'll fit right in lol.

3. I can at least give a bit of insight on this one, as I unfortunately hid things, just not from my parents.

Undergarments and women's cut clothes are really nice and not necessarily noticeable to those around you. It's subtle, but the difference between a women's and men's tee makes a significant difference for how I see myself, but others are unlikely to notice.

Growing your hair out is another possible option and did wonders for my mental health, while simply using the excuse of wanting to try something new or even just being too lazy/busy to get it cut.

Getting my ears pierced was another small thing that's pretty common with men too nowadays. Even clip-on earrings are an option if you want to go really incognito.

Tinted chapstick and similar "not-makeup" cosmetics are again, subtle, but they are small things that add up without being too overt.

"Feminizing workouts" sound ridiculous, but they can legit give you great hips/butt without hormones. Again, not anything super overt, but I guarantee you'll notice before anyone else does.

Ayy, samesies. I love my name, and like you said, it's a very common female name. There's also a certain sense of power that comes from being un-deadnameable.

Yup, my "boy hobbies" are the sole evidence my parents cite to say they're 100% sure I'm making this up and that there were no other signs.

Can confirm that I was also a very vocal ally cis guy, but the siren song of estrogen was too strong

Ha, joke's on you! It made me a puppygirl, so take that! (I'd still like some headpats and girlcuddles plz)

Because if they did, they'd have to admit that what's formed at conception isn't a fully developed person.

I'm also adding earrings, they were basically one of the very first things I did when I started transitioning. They've become relatively common on guys, and small studs won't stand out much at all, but they're something I notice every time I look in the mirror and make me feel very femme. Plus, you can very much up how much they stand out as you get more comfortable with presenting more femme. Plus, I work with my hands a lot and can't wear anything dangly/metallic at work, and I just generally find a lot of jewelry annoying/uncomfortable to wear, but I don't notice my earrings at all except when I see them

Wait really? I was told the opposite from pills/sublinguals. I'm just a giant baby and really hate needles...