chosensilence

thank you.. i appreciate that! i guess i wanted to encourage a conversation around he/they transfem experiences. but i'm happy to see this isn't too uncommon as i thought and the community is supportive as a whole.

None of this seems at odds with being transfem, tbh, and seems fairly typical.

ah, see.. i guess i don't know. i see the majority of transfems use feminine pronouns and refer to themselves as women. i wasn't sure if my experience was atypical or typical or what lol.

For years I basically detested all pronouns because nothing felt right

that is why i struggled until my early 30s before accepting being non-binary as an experience of gender, then it took a little bit longer to settle on transfem as a gender identity.

I highly recommend at trying HRT

i don't know about HRT. i have thought about it a lot; just to get some kind of feminizing blockers and whatnot, but i simply can't run the risk of it impacting my already severely impacted sex drive. the medications i'm on make it very difficult to maintain and reach orgasm, and the sex i have is one of the only things i enjoy about my male body. i don't have any genital dysphoria, if anything, i enjoy the parts i have and how i fit with the men i pursue. i worry HRT would reduce my ability to perform and that wouldn't be worth it for me.

Even though everyone sees me as a woman now, it doesn’t mean I have learned to fully see myself as a woman - that is happening slowly over time, esp. as I live life as a woman.

that is truly wonderful. i am glad you are achieving what you want! it's gotta be surreal lol. i don't think i'm a woman.. idk though? i really just don't see it. i did oppress myself forever so i could be blinded.. but i do enjoy the life of a gay guy in terms of romance and sex.. so idk what that means.

crying laughing irl help

ah sure, i get ya.

while all of this is fascinating, i think the user was replying off a gut instinct to the interpreted rejection of biological drivers factoring in to sex. hearing "biological sex is a social construct" doesn't read the same as "biological sex as an enforced standard is a social construct that prefers the binary of male and female," because that is ultimately the point being made; not that genes themselves don't matter, which is what people like the poster hear/see when flat statements without context are made.

it still isn’t something unexpected given the nature of private Catholic schools to trend conservative.

lol you chose a private Catholic school and didn’t expect something like this to eventually happen?

lol that’s ok, Dems. i still remember how long it took for yall to champion same-sex marriage. i still remember HRC’s opposition as she ran for president in 2008. now i won’t forget how your party turned on trans people in the 2020s.

keep it up!

i feel ya. i am unfortunately alone in my area. not literally, i've seen other trans people and even had a friendship with a local transwoman, but she abruptly cut communication with me so it's back on my own. i don't have much to say other than you aren't alone, at least. i'm sorry you're feeling the pain of solitude.

i'm honestly completely done with these people feeling in control and on top and have been for a long, long time. others are finally seeming to feel the same and if that spreads and enough of us get together.. then we'll have a nice bake sale.

hey how about we make it her problem?