it's funny because being homophobic is a choice, being gay isn't. So indeed it makes more sense to punish homophobes, as they are the ones who can actually change.
ThatFembyWho
joined 2 years ago
So I don't know exactly where you are in your journey, but I have some general advice...
If you don't have one yet, think about your transition plan and goals. Obviously HRT is one that falls under medical transition, and there are many others such as hair removal/restoration and various surgeries; and various steps for social and legal transition.
Everyone's plan is different and should be uniquely tailored to yourself. It's never too early to think about.
For example, I wanted to begin with HRT, both to confirm I made the correct decision, and to relieve dysphoria as soon as possible, while giving myself time to work on other things. Now three years in, HRT has done much for me, and I've found confidence to begin tackling the rest, such as electrolysis hair removal, voice therapy, surgical consultations, outfit and style exploration, and opening up to more people about my identity.
It's super cool when you start crossing items off your list and realize all the progress made!
And yes, patience is key. You will most likely have breast tenderness sooner than you think. But that is such an early sign and only the beginning of the beginning of changes to come. Like after two years, I thought my breast growth was finished, but I've recently had growth spurts and rounding, it's amazing. Don't believe everything you hear or read, puberty really is a long slow process.
I would also suggest not obsessively comparing your progress to others. Especially online not everyone is honest about their appearance, and even if they are, there are always outliers who get lucky. Scrolling through selfies of beautiful young trans girls is dangerous, believe ms. I feel so much better and more confident without that in my life. Focusing on myself, building a support network, and making progress at my own pace, those are the keys IMO :)
Thank you so much for this! I've been following your advice since my second appointment. Unfortunately my first order of numbing cream was lost in the mail... but I have it now! It really made a difference, going to my fourth this morning. All the dark hairs on my face are gone, only some almost translucent blonde ones remain. Think I'll have her do a bit of my chest now if time permits.
I also live about 15min from my electrologist, so it's perfect :D
If it were me, I'd be wearing thigh highs and/or panties under my boyclothes >:)
But to answer your question:
Painting nails, a classic.
Cleaning, trimming and filing nails to make them look nice.
Relaxing in a nice long bath.
Shaving or otherwise removing body hair.
Put a ribbon or flower in your hair!
Main thing is estrogen dominant bodies have thinner skin (literally) so it looks more translucent, smoother, and feels softer to the touch. Bad side of that is the spider veins...
Absolutely they can!
I think you can expect an investment on the order of 10k for full body electrolysis.
I think they can treat anywhere that has fully developed terminal hairs. So, not vellus / "peach fuzz" hairs. Other points are that if you have light or reddish hair like mine, electrolysis is about the only option, and it is permanent (no regrets here lol).
It's a bit expensive. My 15 min session was about $30 and an hour is $90. I'm going to a small private clinic.
Eventually I would like to get my legs done.
Wow I can relate so hard.
My current partner is the first time I could say I truly loved AND was loved in return. Yet we're ultimately impossible :/
I'm full of passions, and my greatest desire is to find people who would like to share them, and show me their passions. Sometimes this blinds me to reality.
I have had many passing infatuations, and indeed still get them to this day. IMO that's normal, but we do need to remember to live, and not remain anchored by dreams and ideals.
Let's get one thing out of the way: you're not guilty of anything here.
Transitioning is a choice, and it's up to each transgender person to decide when and how to do so. Some people never transition - that's perfectly valid.
What is most important is your comfort and safety, and if you don't feel ready, then it's absolutely OK to pause your transition.
I'm nearly 40, began medical transition at 37. It took me... a decade to resolve my identity. I passed through various stages. The realization of being transgender hit like a ton of bricks. Surprising, and yet not, somehow? I lived decades believing I was stuck in my body.
I will say that I have experienced tremendence progress in recent years. It took 6 months to a year of HRT before I could see "the woman in the mirror". Now I see my true self more often than not - it's a wonderful and priceless feeling. My breasts continue to grow and round out - long after I feared my transition was stalled.
However, I'm blessed with a very supportive partner and life circumstances that allow me to make such changes without worrying about family.
My body is naturally somewhat feminine. I still die inside sometimes when I see my face (beard/stubble, receded hairline, nose), hear myself speaking too deeply, or get misgendered. I'm over 6 feet tall - I stand out.
Here's where I'm at three years in:
- changed name and pronouns at work
- first time dressing authentically in public this year. Even wore a bikini at the beach!
- first electrolysis consultation next week
- first voice therapy session next week
- therapist is writing letter for surgeons
- first endo appointment last month, first real prescriptions (was DIY for 2.5 years)
- early 2024 will start getting surgeon referrals
I have only now reached a point where I'm comfortable moving forward. I also feel the pressure of my state's anti-trans politics, the longer I wait, the harder this is going to be. Indeed I feel compelled, not only to make the best decision for myself, but to face my opponents and show them I won't back down.
Is it frightening? Oh hell yes. Transitioning is terrifying, it's super difficult and expensive. Not everything that comes from that is good. I'm not going to judge anyone for stopping or delaying their transition.
If you can live as your assigned gender, and you find ways to cope, more power to you. Everyone's path is different. I do recommend a good therapist so you can discuss how you feel. IMO your relationship and your own mental health depends on it.
I feel like making it through a day of this fascist hell as a trans person deserves a party!
but yes I'm all for throwing parties for my beautiful trans siblings <3
Botox injections?
Not saying I would ever to that, but I don't see any other way such a radical change is possible. I've seen that referred to as e.g. arm feminization surgery.
I mean YMMV but I'm more muscular with zero T than before, and I don't exactly "work out" I have a very strenuous job.
I wouldn't expect changes like these without cosmetic surgeries of some kind.
Same here... but they got a sonogram about a month before I was born, so they had to pick a new name once I was "determined" to be AMAB.
I always disliked all variations of my deadname and much prefered what should have been my birth name. So I'm making it happen!