HopeOfTheGunblade

joined 2 years ago

Decent article. Hope it makes some difference.

Yeah, life isn't required to offer us remotely fair choices. For me it was a pretty easy one, to get surgery, it just took me more than 20 years from making the decision to being able to act on it.

When you have that kind of situation, where you know you're going to have regrets whichever way you go, the best you can do is steer towards the regret you'll hate the least, and practice gratitude and mindfulness around the parts of your choice that are good. I ended up with some numbness, I think downstream of some self harm I did in my teens, and I'm not happy about that, I don't love dilating but it's far from the worst, I get pains sometimes, and I could focus on those things and be miserable, but I consciously focus on not feeling the damned thing anymore, on clothes fitting properly, on the pleasant sensations I do get and the way sex, for me, is better now. That kind of intentful mindfulness is a skill, that you can practice, and doing so is my top recommendation to you.

I think of myself as a consequentialist. I care about outcomes, and having an understanding of the inputs and the function gives you much better control over the outputs.

[–] HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social 3 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I would suggest that on the contrary, it suggests a useful point of intervention. A great deal of crime descends from poverty. If you don't like crime, you could focus on it being about the individuals committing the crime, or you could focus on fixing the poverty. Doing the former has gotten us the highest proportion of our population in prison in the world, higher than any police state that I am aware of.

[–] HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social 4 points 2 years ago (4 children)

Really? Over the last decade or so I've moved more towards a material conditions view, where material conditions is inclusive of neurotype - some people are naturally high anxiety, low openness, high purity sense, and high traditionalism, and that's not something they have direct control over - and even if they did, they wouldn't have control over the algorithm that drives them towards a given set of values for those parameters, and even if they did, they wouldn't have control over the algorithm that decides which algorithm to use for deciding which algorithm to use for deciding those values, ad infinitum. The buck grounds out in things outside our control.

That does seem likely to have much better outcomes for everyone.

[–] HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social 26 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Really, they don't have anything more important to be focusing on?

Which can be fun if you're into that, it's the lack of consent that's an issue.

And they sure are roueing the day!

Go on, then. What evidence?

Euronews searched Glenique Frank’s marathon profile and found she placed 583rd out of 2,235 runners in her age category.

Frank came 6,171st out of more than 24,000 women in total. If all participants of the mass event are taken into account, Frank finished 21,617 out of 48,694

A solid middle of the pack performance.

Well, it's like this: When your view of the world is based on things being black or white, hierarchies being real, natural, and desirable, and you encounter someone whose very existence threatens to tear out those foundations, you can either examine your axioms and build a new foundation, or attempt to destroy that person's existence. Generally, people who have done the former don't have the anti-trans rabies.

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