Foreigner

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[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago

I'm looking forward to your tales of the young upstart bringing a new flavour of chaos to The Council!

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 10 points 4 months ago (3 children)

No wonder she was scarfing down two cans in one go, she's eating for multiples! Good luck resisting the temptation to keep a kitten... or two...

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 26 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Congrats on coming out and being your true self, that was a very brave thing to do.

Your mother, like many parents, had hopes and dreams about who you would become as a person. She's now being faced with the prospect that those hopes and dreams are dead, that the person she thought you would become is gone. She's going to need to grieve and from what you've written here it seems that process has started. Shock, denial, bargaining, some level of acceptance. I expect anger and depression might show up at some point. It doesn't necessarily happen in sequence and can cycle too. She's going to need some time to process, but what's positive is she's not outright rejecting who you are, there's room for her to grow.

My parents weren't hostile when I came out as gay, but I heard similar things - it's just a phase. Are you sure? Was it something we did? Where did we go wrong? What will your life become? Over time they came to accept it and told my extended family (including my very religious Pentecostal grandmother). Everyone is now very welcoming of my wife and my parents are delighted to be grandparents to our kids. I know it's not the same, but there is hope for things to get better, just keep being authentically you.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

I did actually read the article shortly after commenting, but had good reason to believe they would be talking about infants anyway as I've some knowledge on the topic. However, the article isn't very clear that it's the parents making the decision on behalf of their infant, and reads a bit like the doctors are going ahead and mutilating babies without anyone's consent. Not that I find it's any better that parents are consenting on behalf of their children for non-medically necessary surgery.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 25 points 10 months ago (7 children)

I'm assuming this refers to surgery on infants, in which case it's the parents who consent, not the child.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I recommend getting a heated blanket, then taking up residence under said blanket for the rest of winter.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 28 points 2 years ago (2 children)

If you haven't already, have you considered installing a few small ramps around the pool for animals to climb out when they fall in? You can find some simple cheap-ish ones on amazon like this one: https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81hGTaHIS3L._AC_UF1000,1000_QL80_DpWeblab_.jpg