Blahaj_Blast

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[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I have honestly never heard of this concept, but am significantly more intrigued than the idea of "find a sex club"

They are literally called "munches"? Are there other terms ? Any other terms or ways to find something like this? Legit, I've never heard of this being a thing before.

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for the advice!

We try to be super open about all of this. I think a big point is that she recognizes and understands and supports my transition, but she's nervous she will be less attracted to me later and wants to explore how much of a possibility she really might be into women, but cannot see herself doing a one night stand situation, so we're a bit stumped on "how do we figure it out without actually having sex?" situation? Idk if it's even possible, just fishing for ideas for something I'm probably missing.

 

So, I realized a Lil while back, (2+y) I'm mtf trans. My spouse and I have been together ~16 years and now she's committed to seeing this through and seeing how things end up because she loves me, not my flesh necessarily. But, she's concerned because we grew up with a very strict, conservative, religious background and did always consider ourselves cishet.

She loves me for me, but is worried about the future and super curious about exploring her sexuality to figure out if she's as straight as she thought (she's also had some do I want her or to be her thoughts).

Main point is, does anyone have any suggestions for how she can explore and figure things out without opening the marriage, and preferably without porn?

I'm still struggling to understand the romantic and sexual attraction spectrums and where I fit in the, but she seems very high on the romantic spectrum as in, she can't imagine being intimate without a serious relationship.

I don't know. I'm just looking for options to help her figure herself out, and us out, while I figure myself out too.

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 7 months ago (2 children)

The military IT is about to suffer

 

Seeing those thin women that sooo have that hourglass shape.

OR even just those women with noticeable hips! Ugh! I feel so jealous! I wish I could do HRT, but with everything going on, I feel like it's safer to put it off, especially since my disphoria isn't too severe at.

Just a vent, I guess.

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Are you on a monitored, corporate wifi? I've noticed some fediverse locations seem to be blocked by some work or school firewalls

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 10 months ago

Well I would definitely thank the fuck out of you for that! :3 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

 
[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 months ago

Considering we all start the same for the first few weeks and then differ after that, it makes sense it's not 1 spectrum of differences. It should be 2 at least.

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

This looks crazy similar to the gender bread person

 

I feel so embarrassed even considering certain things!

I know 'just trying it out' shouldn't be a big deal, but in my mind, it is. Even though I know it shouldn't be.

Can anyone else relate? It's like consciously, yeah it's just a thing. It's not inherently gendered (clothes, makeup whatever) But! I can't help but feel so embarrassed to try some shit

My partner has been extremely supportive thus far and is ready to explore with me, but shit is so embarrassing!

My guess is internalized "feminine is less than masculine" and I'm not sure how to get past it? Anyone else? Please? Advice? Am making sense?

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 11 months ago

I have thought about the hoodie, and I did get a blåhaj recently! It's comfy AF!

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago

Good to know! Thanks!

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I really like the look of the second one

 

Hai! I'm new-ish here. I've known for a bit I'm trans, but barely started anything substantial really. I'm easing into it, but I've had this thing stuck in my mind recently.

Whats something relatively small or cheap/easy that helps make you feel girl? I have a few loungey clothes and stuff and been working on body hair removal but I'm looking for something... Else? I'm not sure what. Just thought this could be a good place for ideas or advice.

I'm just looking for new easy ideas that might help me feel more 'at home'? Idk I wanna be a comfy chill relaxed girl.

 

Not me, but an amazing pep talk I didn't know I needed! 🏳️‍⚧️

 

OMG! I follow so many trans groups on here, fb, yt, reddit wherever and there are so many of you that if I didn't see where it was posted I'd assume you were just a rediculously attractive cis woman and I'm so jealous!

 

Hi all!

I've been looking into shapewear a lot recently and looking for any input/advice. I think I'm between rectangle and inverted triangle shape and looking to do some tummy squeezing, waist cinching trying to get more of waist and hip pads or something to make a more hourglass shape. A lot of hip stuff also has butt pads, which I already have enough butt I think 😅 is there one garment that could do all of these any kind of decent, or is it easier/better to get a couple of things more focused on doing one thing good?

Also been thinking about breastforms, so any advice there would be appreciated there too!

 
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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

I've been lurking here more lately, but I haven't been completely absent. It's been around a year since I joined lemmy, and just over a year since I came to the conclusion that I am indeed trans.

It took a while, I've had a few big steps up in feeling comfortable with being trans. I spent 6+ months on a kick of "I'm not cis/I might be trans" and a bit later to "I'm trans, but embarrassed about it" but in the last couple of months keep getting more, almost, proud to be trans. A couple months back I finally accepted calling myself a trans-woman. Still a bit of a shock to me 😅

I finally started pulling the trigger and started buying some stuff from the women's dept, mostly just lounge and sleep wear. But feel somewhat less uncomfortable about even looking at it.

I told my therapist a couple months back I had started more seriously researching hrt and she asked how it felt. I said something like, "nervous, but a little excited.." more recently, it's been more like "excited, with a little bit of nervous. Like waiting in line on a new roller-coaster"

My spouse had some struggles at first, and is still also figuring things out with me, but sounds super accepting and has talked about hrt and other ideas as if it's any other typical big relationship topic.

Also, lately, euphoria-wise, I realized, I fucking love sleep shirts and sleep dresses! It's been just over a year since I cut my hair and occasionally, it sits around my face just right I can see a woman beginning to appear! ☺️ Its getting long enough to be able to do the little head shake/flip to get the hair out of my eye and it's kind of euphoric to be able to do that.

ANY-WHOSE how are things going with the rest of you girls? Any new, unexpected euphoria lately? Any tips or tricks? I feel like I'm past so much fear and almost ready to come out to some people

Oh! BTW, I did actually come out to an old friend and an old coworker who both understood and accepted, which was awesome!

Edit: also, fun fact! I have red hair. And about as much body hair as is possible. I've been trying to remove it, never really liked it, convinced myself I was fine with it. I'm not anymore. Either way! Found out from an estatician that apparently redheads have deeper rooted hair. 🤷‍♀️ Also! I already knew redheads were less sensitive to anesthetics. So, I have tons of body hair, deeper rooted hair, and numbing stuff doesn't work that well... It fucking *sucks" but I'm trying my damndest to power through.

 
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