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Hai! I'm new-ish here. I've known for a bit I'm trans, but barely started anything substantial really. I'm easing into it, but I've had this thing stuck in my mind recently.

Whats something relatively small or cheap/easy that helps make you feel girl? I have a few loungey clothes and stuff and been working on body hair removal but I'm looking for something... Else? I'm not sure what. Just thought this could be a good place for ideas or advice.

I'm just looking for new easy ideas that might help me feel more 'at home'? Idk I wanna be a comfy chill relaxed girl.

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[โ€“] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (11 children)

estrogen ๐Ÿ˜†

EDIT: before someone points out this isn't a small thing, I think HRT should be thought of as relatively small step - so many women wait really long to start estrogen for no reason other than perception that this is some huge step that you can't undo.

I think estrogen should be one of the first things anyone does when exploring because it gives you so much information about what feels good for you, and it can potentially be so life-saving, and because it is such a low-cost and low-risk thing to do.

There is no reason not to start with estrogen as the first little step:

  • it can be stopped anytime and
  • there are no long-term or permanent changes until after taking it for three months, and
  • it's relatively cheap.

Three months is a long time to figure out if estrogen is the right thing for you, if it helps, if actually it's crucial for your mental health and basic functioning, etc.

Even past 3 months you don't have to socially transition, you might have another 9+ months before you can't boy-mode anymore, I have a friend on oral estrogen who is still boy-moding a year later without issue (though your mileage may vary - I don't think I could boy-mode anymore because of my breasts). I know a woman who has been on estrogen for much longer who still boy-modes at work, and people see what they want to see - I can't see a man in her, but because they all knew her as a man, that's what they see still.

All this to say, estrogen should come first. It's not a big deal.

[โ€“] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

My grandma took estrogen and then died. It's a really big deal among her descendants.

[โ€“] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I can't tell if this is serious, or a joke I don't get ๐Ÿ˜…

[โ€“] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Heritable diseases are seriously preventing me from doing E.

[โ€“] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago

That's beyond fucked - but also incredibly suspicious, bioidentical estrogen especially when injected should carry no risk.

Premarin, the horse estrogen pill, was the only source of the concerns and the studies that found increased risk of blood clots, etc. AFAIK. Was your grandmother using Premarin? What heritable disease prevents taking estrogen?

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