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‘It’s risky business emotionally’: the social shift towards open relationships
(www.theguardian.com)
this post was submitted on 03 Nov 2025
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As someone whos mental health and attachment style can't cope with Poly, RA or ENM, it's starting to feel more and more hopeless when trying to date, 90% of the queer people I know are one of those. My ex made me feel broken and wrong for wanting a mono relationship and tried to convince me to be ENM because apparently mono is rooted in colonialism.
I'm just like, am I not allowed to like what I like?
Its fucked and makes me feel like I'll be alone forever.
I'm poly and honestly don't understand how other queer people of anyone have a hard time wrapping their head around sexuality not being a choice. Mono/poly is just another axis on sexuality just like gay/straight
Who said anything about wrapping my head around it?
I have plenty of poly friends, got some RA friends, I have no issue with them or the way their relationships work.
I literally said that MY mental health can't cope with it and it's difficult being in the dating pool when most people are poly.
I'm not sure where you're extrapolating your assertion from.
Welp, you certainly didn't wrap your head around that I was disparaging poly people trying to get mono people into things like ENM 🙃 am I on Tumblr?
Lol whoops. I didn't understand the context, my bad.