Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I hope my fatigued writing didn't give the impression that I have 15 simultaneous partners! That would solve a lot of problems.
I get that you value platonic friendships. I suck at friends, better at sex. I don't know what I'd cleverly compare my relationship maintenance to. Either shooting myself in the foot or setting myself on fire. It tears me up that I can't have what I know I like - femboys and guys 10 years younger than me - without the understanding that it's temporary bs - don't get too close or you'll get burned. I hate this self-knowledge that seems to only come with estrogen. I might be more approachable but I don't have the energy to chase cute boys. And girls, well, if I don't top I'm ousted from the relationship. Sorry for the rant. You aren't my therapist. (I wish my therapist were trans though.)
I'm curious what kind of men you like (what few you do) assuming you like relationships on the physical side.
When I had half a dozen partners, I'd see each one of them once every six months, so I was actually getting less contact than when I was doing serial monogamy.
Curiously, when my flatmate had a boyfriend, I was having a rush and he was jealous of my busy schedule despite that it turned into a red flag for the roomie / his partner.
Sorry, I'm having trouble parsing that phrase. You had a busy schedule and that's a red flag in relationships, or the roommate's boyfriend's reaction to your busy schedule...?
I was having a rush of encounters between my girlfriends. He was jealous, and my roommate decided that might be a red flag in their relationship. It was more that he didn't know fully what he wanted and was a bit opportunistic.